Since i realized i’m a girl, i couldn’t open my heart to anybody, even my parents.I could never feel love  or trust, in all my life i felt lonely…Â
But lately, there was a guy who confessed to me.. I know he’s a bad guy, and 80% he’s trying to make a joke out of me.. well that’s what i think, i don’t know if i should give it a try?Â
I mean, should i consider it as an opportunity to take my life out of the black? or what?
Help me please, i need an answer as quick as possible.
PS: he already made my life unbearable, because he told everyone that i like him ( i didn’t!), and he’s telling everybody that he’s crazy about me (that’s a complete bad thing, because i hate being noticed)
HELP! it’s a serious matter for me.
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Go with your guy instinct on how this person feels. We pick up on things for a reason, we can usually tell. A lot of people here care and will talk about whatever you want.
I’m confused … the way my mind stopped thinking ! & ’till now, I’m going with my instinct & trying to look strong & careless in front of everybody..
he lies about almost everything, (i think) so my picture of him is a bit blurry … When i look at him & think about his lies= i hate him.. but when i listen to some people i start thinking that he is like my only hope to get out of my shell & have a boyfriend like everybody else= i get confused.
Sounds like you are pretty certain this guy is bad for you. I wouldn’t say this is the end of the world though. *shrugs* I don’t know, if this was me, I probably would just ignore the guy completely and move on with my life, but that’s just me.
it’s not like he is letting me move on with my life… he stands everyday in front of my house to make sure i went to school or came from school,he even added some girls i know in school on Facebook & told them that he’s crazy about me & that he wouldn’t let me go whatever the reason is …… i don’t know, because of him everybody talks about me!!
He even told a classmate that if i ever had a boyfriend he would go beat him up!
I already hate my life, but he made it even worse!
I had a defense mechanism where i picked any little detail about the person i was interested in (when there was an opportunity to date) and blew it up until i was certain it would never work.
As long as this isn’t the case.. i’d say trust your instincts.
Hey Oumeima,
Sounds like a creeper to me. How well do you know this person? Your post caught my attention because I have a 17 year old daughter in a similar situation. Like even if his intentions were valid and good….his behaviour is mysogynistic and sick. I hope for your sake that he is in reality just very, very immature. Also I would be interested in knowing why you think this could be a setup or how he could possibly be making a joke?
Curious
Amakua
Amakua,
you know when guys start those stupid bets on getting some specific girl to fall for them, & then do whatever they want with her ( of course the poor girl won’t refuse anything to her beloved boyfriend). After that they just leave her ( heartbroken in the best scenario case!) <== that's the famous "joke" among guys i guess..
As for the setup.. i couldn't get a clear idea of what you mean..
Trust me “everybody else” does NOT have a boyfriend/girlfriend … lies are lies – nothing fixes that and they only get worse – that will only guarantee heartbreak and embarrassment … you time WILL come with the right person who does NOT lie … run far and fast from this troublemaking fraud. and feel free to simply shake your head and say “it ain’t true” when people say he told them you like him
if it feels like trouble and looks like trouble and acts like trouble … it IS trouble
guard dawg
Dawg, i really appreciate your help, what you said was awesome, i wished i had a friend like you who would show me the way to being a real careless & strong girl… thanks. ^^
Okay…catching on slowly. BTW how old are you if you don’t mind. Not necessary to tell me…makes no difference really…just curious. haha
I’m assuming that you haven’t dated before. Am I wrong? In that case your age would tell me if this was appropriate or not. For example…at 17…my daughter has never dated…says she is asexual. She is “different” from your average kid for a variety of reasons…and when she would feel even more different because she had never had a boyfriend. Most of her friends had boyfriends before they got to Grade 3. haha But in the last year…she is getting more than her usual share of male attention. She is also concerned that it may be some type of setup like the one you described…or rather joke.
I dunno…to me…jokes are funny…that is why I refer to it as a setup. I used to tell my daughter that she intimidated boys…but that men would love her. And now that she is older…and the boys are older…she is starting to get some attention. Her self esteem is soooo low that she worries much like you. Do you also have self esteem issues? Or are you obviously “different” from your peers for some reason? Again, just curious.
Sooo…if you are 12 or 13…I wouldn’t worry…he is probably just really, really immature. If you are 15 or older…I would be a wee bit more concerned about the sudden and erratic behaviour. Is this boy a popular kid? Has he had many girlfriends of his own? These are questions I would like to ask…for obvious reasons. Has he initiated conversations in the past? Do you share interests? And what is with all the lying? What sorts of things does he lie about? Does he pressure you to do things you don’t want to or feel uncomfortable doing? See? Questions, questions, questions. haha
Peace
Amakua
hhh Akamua .. you can ask as much as you want, & no i’m not 12 or 13, i’m actually the same age as you r daughter: 17, and the guy is about 25, he’s not popular & e do not share interest, i heard he had “S**” with some girls, & i heard him before talking about girls like some kind of cheap things!
I absolutely won’t love him.. EVER.. it’s just that he turned my life to hell!
I do not have any self esteem, or anything.. i just try to care less about everything to forget all the mistakes i’ve done before..
& i’m not some kind of kid who’s trying to grab some attention.. i’m just trying to have some advice .. from someone who probably went through the same thing or witnessed it .
Nicely put Dawg. I concur….was just trying to be nosy and complicate things. You know me eh? You are sooo succinct. I am jealous.
Yeah…what Dawg said. haha
What?! Amakua has a daughter thats 17?! (╯°□°)╯︵ â”»â”â”»
;o; i wanna say hello. Haha kidding. Hi Amakua you old timer o-o
Live was I ere I saw evil ;D
@ Oumeima
Your situation is very similar to my daughter’s. I believe your instincts are correct. Stay away from this man who acts like a retarded boy. For some reason he feels he can control you. Any idea why? And yes he is only interested in two things…imo…sex…and control which will include humiliating you.
When your “friends” bother you about this? Just tell them you KNOW you are too good for him…that you prefer not to bother kissing a lot of frogs while waiting for your prince charming. Also let your parents know…his waiting and checking on you…that is stalking. When I was 15 I had a similar issue with a 23 year old. My Dad went out and had a chat with him…oh yeah…and he took his friend 2X4 with him. haha
All kidding aside….be careful…don’t trust him…and make sure your parents are aware that his attentions are unwanted.
@ ATE How the hell are you? ermmm…I hate to shock you but Jana is my youngest. hahaha My oldest daughter just turned 33. lmao I told you I was a slow old woman…now didn’t I? hahaha Love ya. 😀
Thanks Amakua, u seem like a very caring and kind person, but my parents are waayy hot blooded, so if i told them this, i probably will end my OWN life!
i appreciate your help as well, & i think that if he bothered me again, i’ll go to the police station & do what i have to do.
I reiterate strenuously
RUN … far and fast from this predator … RUN!
dawg
@Amakua
Hm hell? Well hellishly well. Haha I forgot your daughters ages because it never was relevant o-o if it was id remember. I know you are old woman. I just didn’t remember you had so many brats O-O
@ATE I luv brats. The more the merrier. Hell I’d even adopt you if you weren’t already a man. I’ve seen you be a brat !! ha Adults…ick…not so much. hahaha Hellishly well? Soooo…situation normal? jk sorry if you are poopy.
Lots of Love
Auntie Ama
@Amakua
I’m not a man though ._. and psh don’t baby your brats or they wont ever leave home. Yes I’m quite bratty. No just worried about someone that’s not from this website who’s not doing well.
@ATE I caught part of your story I think. How is your friend doing? Have you been able to go see her? I feel for ya man. I’ve been where you are. It sucks. What do you mean by not doing well? Do you have a current post? Somewhere we could maybe yak without disrespecting the OP?
And who says you are not a man? But bratty…hell yes. You definitely qualify on that front. And who says I want the brats to leave home? Then who will I torment? Any volunteers? hahaha
Love ya
@Amakua
I don’t know her friend told me she’s well and being released tomorrow. Just. Really. Panicky inside. This isn’t the first time I find out she’s int he hospital. It kills me to be so far away and unhelpful. Even worse that i always think she doesn’t give a **** because she doesn’t speak to me yet when I told her friend by what name she calls me he told me she talk about me before she falls asleep at night. Haha i have a post go nag on that?
I know I’m not a man in any sense yet. Well maybe physically between teen and grown male. Closer to teen still since im only 19 now?
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