I am in love with a girl named sabrina. Today at school i saw her crying and i asked her “who’s ass do i need to kick?” And everyone pointed at jason. I should have killed him then and there but i tried to leave him alone. Sabrina eventually went into the bathrooms and cried. I think she may have ended up cutting too. I want to take away her pain but i dont know how. Getting back at jason will only make things worse. she wont talk to me about it and i dont know what to do now. If she ended up cutting again i’d blame myself because i should have done something or said something to make her feel better. I wrote on a piece of paper that she was amazing and beautiful and not to let anyone tell her different but i dont think that was enough. i didnt write it to make her feel better, but because its true. I dont know what to do now. i dont even know why im posting this. Someone… Plz tell me what to do to help her and make her happy. Oh p.s. the reason she cried was because jason said that she just like to use ppl. I know how sensative and how broken she is. What now?
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That is a tough situation, but it wouldn’t be right to beat up that Jason guy. He may have felt used by her. You don’t necessarily know his situation, or the whole story.
Tell her you’re there for her if she needs it, but give her some space.
It’s hard to fix broken people, and harder still to make them happy.
Maybe share something with her and see if she opens up.
Flowers are also a nice, though somewhat cheesy gesture, perhaps it would put a smile on her face.
She has a boyfriend named max who wasnt at school today so she was lonely and sat at her old table during lunch and jason was sitting at that table so he said that she just uses ppl which doesnt make any sense. Then he said that he didnt do anything wrong. Wtf? Btw, i cant give her flowers while she has a boyfriend….
You cant take away some elses pain. Because the only solution to this kind of pain is revenge. And revenge only causes hatred, which causes more pain. U need to chill, be there for her, and let her work it out on her own.
I dont think she can.
See judging by her reaction there is probably history there, though it was still a rotten thing to say to someone.
Was just an idea, though theres no reason they couldn’t be platonic so long as you made it clear that they were. I hope she is okay, and that you are too. Try not to think on this too much. Sabrina is probably feeling better by now, and you should try to as well.
Put your own house in order, before trying to help.
“…it was still a rotten thing to say to someone.”
Not if it’s true.
Identifying and communicating the problem is not the rotten thing; creating the type of problem such as “just likes to use people,” is the rotten thing.
Then again, young people are often mistaken about what or whether truth actually is, as well as being apt to overreact, so… if he thinks she seems like she just enjoys using people, then is he “being rotten” by saying so? I don’t think so. And i seriously doubt anyone enjoys going around accusing people of enjoying using others.
Anyway, uhh… hm.
“Hang in there.”
“It’ll get better.”
Sometimes people say things to hurt people. He may have been angry at her, but presumably he knew the reaction it would bring about. And maybe this person I don’t know does like to use people. It happens, maybe she doesn’t like that quality about herself.
School is tough enough without people reminding you of your personal faults, and this Jason guy could have found a better way of making his feelings known.
Broken one… Try to let this girl go. She is with another, and the more you invest the more it’ll hurt. Don’t take offence but you sound friendzoned.