Why do people seem to give so much of a shit about whether or not a person they care about cares about them too? Â If someone doesn’t care about you, fuck ’em and find someone who will! Â Or get a dog…
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There are alot of reasons.
Many simply lack afdectiin and love from others and desperately seeking the approval and acceptance of another. Some are shallow, immature, co dependent, and lack alot of self confidenc/self esteem. There are insecurity and abondment issues. Some are overly attached and seek things that they know are impossible. Sometimes the people who dont are people who should care in their lives like parents, family, children and spouses/friends.
But I do agree with you. If people serve no purpose and aid in more pain, cut them off. Its best to lose finger than a whole hand.
Dogs are very unconditional and more awesome than cats. They can show love and affection without much effort in you part.
Dont get cats, they have no emotions or souls and are incapable of love. Hahahaha jk.
Take care.
I’m actually more of a cat person, but I suggested dogs for people that “need that assurance,” as Jack Byrnes put it.
Depends on the person… i mean, i still care even more than i do for myself for some people that wouldn’t even notice if i die right now, if you have a past with someone it’s not so easy to move on and find some new people who cares (and i’m not talking about love relationships only), sometimes it takes months, years, to move on… that doesn’t mean you should keep on suffering, but it is hard to move on. A dog tho? that helps a lot, even cats with their independence help a lot.
Maybe my real question is why some people have such a hard time learning how to get by on their own (be single). I can understand how depressive it would be to have no contact with the outside world, but under circumstances with people who have jobs or attend school or leave their house in general…
Actually, why is it, as The Koji mentions, do some people so desperately seek approval/acceptance from others? Of course it’s nice to receive encouragement from others, but let’s say a plague wiped out mostly all of mankind, leaving sparse folks sporadically and singularly surviving among the planet. Nevermind. I don’t even know where I’m going with this.
I see where you are going… it depends on the person and the time in life where you are at… that’s all i can think off, i mean, i used to think the same as you do, and did for a long time… then i couldn’t see myself without a relationship, then relapsed to needing my lone time… and so on, guess i’m left wondering the same thing… in my case i know i feel the “need” to be with someone either if i really fall in love with them, or if i find myself on a moment on my life where i have no clear direction or reasons for anything… i do tend to stay alone on those periods tho, because i know it could end up pretty badly. But it can sure be different from person to person.
The thing with the with jobs/school companion is that a lot of people separate their life from their work/school enviroment, so i can see the loneliness there. Besides, those are places where people relate in a kinda superficial way… so that human “contact” might not be enough for most… and hey, thanks for bringing this up, it is a real good question, hadn’t thinked about this for years (and it’s amazing how a couple of years can change your opinion on things like this) 🙂
“…find someone who will!”
easier said than done.
Also, i think it’s pretty ridiculous how some people seem to be so upset or even infuriated, by noticing that others really want to be liked by someone.
It’s profoundly absurd to be “upset” by humans wanting affection/approval from other humans. It sort of seem like… “i don’t get attention, why should you!?” Which is pretty immature, and misses the point.
well put
@keief: I hear that! Thank you for your input 🙂
@clevername: what isn’t easier said than done? I suggested an alternative as well. I also don’t recall feeling upset or infuriated. I just have an interest in seeing other people’s perspectives on things that go on in my head. Today I’m thinking about how I haven’t had sex in a while… Tomorrow I may wonder why anyone would end it all by hanging in the Aokigahara Forest as opposed to swan diving into the Grand Canyon, and the next day maybe I’ll want info on auto-erotic asphyxiation. 🙂
it’s a matter of degrees (like most everything), but the basic underlying motivation is biological: we’re genetically programmed to be social animals, so as to increase our survival chances
if you’d like to see examples of mammals that are almost completely solitary check out jaguars or pandas: today you’re worrying why you haven’t gotten laid in a while — i can assure you that the average panda is more worried about how much bamboo they can find (bamboo being the mainstay of their diet, and very poor nutrition at that), and s/he could care less about getting laid
Mowgli got along just fine for quite a while. I think he may have even befriended some jaguars! …and that’s clearly based on a true story