Ok so I’m 27, I live in the UK, so there’s no guns (would be my preferred way) anyways my life is so bad, I have an extreme foot fetish where it replaces all normal sexual preferences, I only find the feet sexy, girls legs, butts, etc mildly attractive but not proper arousal.
This is causing me huge stress as I can’t have normal sex with a girl without feet, it’s caused two girls to leave me, & now there’s one girl I’m in love with who loves me back & definitely wants to get shagged but I know she hates feet & would be extremely freaked out, meaning I have to keep backing off, this is killing me as I do love her do much.
I have been single for 6 years I’m so lonely, Im so tired of being by myself.I just keep thinking why me, why do I have to have this curse? Everybody else just likes vagina, breasts, & is turned on by sexual stimulation, not feet, feet are nothing to do with sex, it’s so stupid.
Anyways I honestly want to be gone I cannot take this torturing my mind everyday, I cannot take loving this women but not bring able to rock her brains out, I want to so bad, it’s ******* killing me.
It’s made me extremely depressed, I’m on anti depressants they are doing nothing, I smoke weed to take the edge off a bit.
Going to work 40/50 hours a week like this is hell.
I am looking into the suicide and the helium bag method looks the best way so far I just don’t want to fail as that would put me in an even worse position, does anybody have some fail safe ideas?
Also with the helium method I have the problem that I live with 2 people, could I do this in my car? Or could I stay at a hotel & do it? I’m also thinking of hanging but I’m not sure exactly how to do it effectively, the main thing is here is I do not want to fail, nobody in my family know that I’m suicidle, please give me some feedback/answers, thank you.
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That’s interesting. Feet are very functional, yet women wear high heel shoes, sandals, pedicures, foot massages, so there’s also a lot of attention on them. Every woman I know absolutely LOVES getting their feet done up, toenails painted, massaged, tons and tons of shoes. I don’t know what your problem is in this area. Women should be flocking to you! Have you thought about becoming a podiatrist, manicurist, foot massage therapist, reflexologist. I think you’re lucky. You’ve found your niche in life. Explore it, delve into it, jump in with both FEET.
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you could do the helium method.
No I’m not lucky at all if I could be rid of this fetish and like normal sexual things I’d do it in a second, I think you struggle to understand as you don’t have this fetish, there is abosolutely no desire for sex, I could have a gorgeous girl bent over on my bed naked and it would do nothing for me, I wouldn’t be able to get aroused, also all girls I have met think feet are gross and if I try get them to do things they think I’m a freak, I am totally screwed, it’s killing my ego this girl I love lying in my bed and I’m not turned on at all, can you give me more info on the helium method, can I do this in my car? Would a tank that fills 40 balloons be enough? Where could I get the bag with a elastic strap? Does this definitely work?
Hmmmm… well first of all, theres nothing really wrong with having preferences or fetishes. People have many niches that they find attractive, and I am pretty sure if you know where to look you might find people with similar preferences. Ever thought about looking for feet fetish sites and forumns? I mean there are sights for would be vampires to hook up (especially here in LA), so I am pretty sure a dude with a love for feet can find a site that can cater to his needs.
I mean I know you love feet, but maybe show your partners that you appreciate every inch of their body and learn to worship them in whole? And always, always make sure you partners know that you love them, have emotional connection, appreciate them and always display your affection for them. Remember its not always about sex anyways.
Good luck.
Good sex is a big part of Maintaining a relationship I basically can barely have sex it’s rubbish to say the least, can I get some tips on the helium method, would a tank that fills 40 balloons be enough & could I do this in my car if I parked somewhere discreet, I live with two people so would be very tough to do effectively at home.
To answer your questions – “no – you need at least two” and “yes – if you follow all the other ‘instructions’ as they have been posted ad nauseam – everyone tries to shortcut and they tend to not READ and appreciate the finer details – to not do so is at your own risk of disappointment”
FYI – not all relationships are centered around sexual gratification – in fact, although it may be an important aspect to many, it is far from the most important aspect in the overall scheme of relationships. trick is to finding the right balance and compromise – but any relationship must have a foundation of trust and honesty and respect before anything else can be built.
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Anyone?
Come on guys I’d really like some help
Here’s the only thing i can really offer:
You gotta try to appreciate all her parts, not just be obsessed with one part. She is a whole person, not just a vehicle through which to deliver your foot fetish gratification (don’t take that the wrong way).
Nothing wrong with liking nice feet.
Maybe you should… investigate local fetish groups (if any), and see if there’s anyone out there who is all about having her feet worshiped (ugh, i want to spell it “worshipped” with 2 p’s…).
Or you could try (man this is probably a bad idea, but maybe not) talking to her about your feet thing.
Bottom line: if the girl you like, thinks it’s too weird that you need to obsess over her feet… you’re going to have to find someone else.
That said… i’m a bit of a pornnoisseur, and i’ve certainly noticed a marked increase in the prevalence of foot fetish material, in the last few years or so. It’s even become kinda “normalized” in the big names and major studios, so… maybe soon-ish, less people will think it’s too weird. Maybe. But i’m sure plenty of people out there will still think “OMFG YOU WEIRDO!!!” 😉
There is nothing wrong with having a fetish and a foot fetish is perfectly normal compared to some, my friend has a tight (pantyhose) fetish (he’s the one who wears them) and he’s happily married and wife accepts it and it’s true that sex is not important in all relationships. I’m in the Uk as well and I’m looking at partial suspension when the time comes.
Hi really appreciate your replies but I am intensely struggling, I have been reading lots on the net & another big problem I have which I didn’t know til recently is how bad circumcisions are, there’s loads of nerves that have been taken away, how much pleasure I am missing out on, this was done when I was younger, I did notice when having sex I don’t feel that much, this really really sucks as it’s done, I wish I was fully intact, then all my other problems I already had, I really just want to be gone, I’m fed up of stressing, suffering, wanted to just cry but can’t, I wish I had a gun but I have no chance of that In the UK, i don’t have the guts to do something that takes time, planning, thinking, if I had a gun I’d just pull the trigger & it’s done.
The foot fetish thing, the biggest problem is it seems to replace all other sexual arousel, normal sexual arousel, when I’m at the feet I’m aroused as soon as I move up the body I don’t feel sexually aroused, it’s just the way I am, it’s asif it’s gods cruel experiment to see how someone can survive with all these mental/physical problems, my whole life has pretty much been shit, while lots of others live happy carefree life’s, life is truly fucking unfair, I fucking hate it, & I want out.
My life is just getting worse & worse, I’m learning how bad circumcision is & how many nerves/function iv lost, I want to die badly now, I’m even thinking of going the train station and just jumping Infront of a train, nobody replied to my last message because you all know I’m right to want to end it, I just need the guts to do it now, I know I want too, I’m suffering too much.
Hold on mate, no one here will advocate for you to follow through with suicide. We may respect your rights to your own autonomy and desicions in life, but no one here will agree to suicide being your course of action.
You must realize that keeping up with a post that has been buried by several weeks of post can be rather complicated. If anything, make an update of your conditions so your from and center for advice on SP.
Now you have noted in your post that you smoke Marijuana and are on antidepressants. Now I understand being “cut”, can play a role in how much you pleasure and arousal you derive from “mating” (keeping it PG13 for the kiddies here), but have you ever tooken into consideration that maybe your antidepressants and use of Marijuana may have an negative impact on you negatively?
I understand it is quite normal to have fetishes and preference retaining to your sexualtiy but there is a fine line when fetishes become more of an unhealthy obsession and hinder you from enjoy a healthy sex life. Maybe, and I say without judgement, but maybe its time to seek a bit of help to restrain your desires into a level point and learn to find pleasure from other “things” than a woman’s feet.
Oh and I must ask, what other factors besides the ones pertaining to your sex life have driven you to seek suicide as means to rid your sorrow?
Please mind my atrocious grammar and spelling, I do hope you can make sense of what I say, despite all the errors.
You make a lot of sense, posts do become lost to history, updates are important if you want follow-up information. Drugs are well know to cause problems in sex. Fetishes are fine but perhaps in a relationship restraint is best, the woman has her needs too, a good relationship should be accommodating, within bounds of course. I, myself, haven’t been in a relationship for years and years but there’s more to my need to die than just a lack of love. Grammar, no-one minds here, I’m constantly correcting myself, my spelling is awful without my dictionary to hand; I remember an episode of Fraiser where he says ‘I don’t correct peoples grammar to be popular’ and no-on who does is popular.
Thanks for the replies.
Being cut doesn’t just lesson sexual please it makes it nearly non-existent to be honest.
It’s absolutely killing me that I got it done not knowing how bad it effects sexual sensitivity.
My other problems are that I work in a job that I can’t stand, I absolutely hate it, working there with depression is literally like hell on earth.
I do honestly think id rather be gone then carry on like this my problems being circumcised and having a foot fetish are permanent, things are not going to get better since I’m 27 and getting older, lonelier, more and more tired from depression, why not just end it?
I never thought committing suicide would be so hard, I don’t want to do it in a way that would fail, I’m not crying out for help I actually just want to end the pain I’m suffering day in day out.
I have to say I don’t know much about circumcision and its consequences, so can’t truely know your anger and depression, but I do undersatnd loneliness, I have years and years of it. Of suicide, it’s the fear of failure that worries me too, it’s a big step to take and the consequences of failure can range from greater depression to severe kidney or brain damage depending on method, jumping from very tall building is pretty foolproof but I can’t imagine I could possibly do that, like you I’m stuck
Nias, happy to see that you´re back. The post you made about leaving got me very worried. Hopefully everything is now as alright as it can get? 🙂
Yes, I got very down that night, I usually bottle up my problems so it was hard for me. I’ll just keeping going and going, for now anyway, glad you’re around, always go to read your post.
I have a history of severe depression as well and know when it feels like you´re in an enormous emotional shipwreck ready to plunge down. Water just keeps coming from everywhere and it keeps bottling up – almost enough to sink the ship, but not quite.
Good thing is that these kind of serious setbacks often come only periodically for most people; so the real danger for suicide is not as major as it may seem. And the recovery from the extreme situation is usually as fast as was the setback.
At least my depression acted this way, can´t say for anyone else. But very glad you´re around Nias; you are a very wise, sympathetic and kind person. Keep that ship above the surface no matter what.