Reminder that no one really cares about suicidal people these days. Why? Because no one takes them seriously. Why? Because if a mental condition is in your head, no one can see it and people have to take your word that it’s there. The perfect plan for attention whores, most frequently on this site. So I see 50 posts a night about killing yourselves and rarely does anyone do it. They come back saying “My attempt failed.” But honestly, it’s easy to kill yourself. I understand that it’s not always a hit and win, but still, the success rate has to be much higher than 50 posts a night and all 50 come back tomorrow. Because everyone who I’ve ever met in real life who’s attempted suicide, has actually succeeded. Which is why I don’t recommend it. Because I’m 99 percent sure that they had some hints they dropped and guess what? No one took them seriously.
I’m not saying “Don’t say you’re gonna kill yourself and then not do it.” I’m saying “Don’t be a little attention whore and then waste our time by saying you’re gonna off yourself when you’re really just sad and at home watching Spongebob.”
Just don’t cry out that you’re going to kill yourself just so people take your issues more seriously. Because there’s a lot of suicidal people here, and someday a suicidal is going to post that they’re going to kill themselves. And no one will care, and that’ll be their last post. Although I’m sure that unless you pretty much live on this site, it’s unlikely you’d have your suicide note posted on here, but that’s an opinion that I’m sure there’s exceptions to, so disregard that. My point being, complain, that’s fine. Just don’t pretend you’re gonna do something so people will take your situation more seriously.
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True, but how are you to determine who truly wants to commit suicide and who doesn’t? Unless you can read minds that’s impossible. Your post has it’s merits, but it has it’s flaws to. Everyone here, has a reason for being here. Yes they may be attention seekers, but that’s probably because they felt abandoned by people that should have nurtured them. Everyone has a reason for being here, and it ranges from wanting to help, to being depressed, but not suicidal, just wanting to talk, to having true intentions of wanting to be dead. I know of plenty of times where people have posted they were done and came back a few hours later, or even a few weeks or months later, saying they were fine, they just needed a break. When in all actuality they just went for a walk to put some thought into things.
I really droned on there, but hopefully you see my point.
Also, about your situation, why would you feel shy if she’s your best friend? I understand being away from each other for that amount of time is hard, but you would still know how to communicate with each other without it being awkward. I know if I could speak with my best friend again, I probably wouldn’t shut up for quite some time.
Snuffles, agreed, that’s why I’m seeing her tomorrow. And you can’t read minds, which is why it’s important to not make parasuicide statuses. Of course people want attention, that’s why you post here, so people can see what you say. Otherwise you’d have a diary. Wanting attention is fine, but we don’t need people who need to lie for attention. People comment on here no matter what. So why the fake threats? We don’t need that.This hopefully stops at least one person from their fake threats. I just want the actual problematic suicide threats to get the attention they deserve.
As do I, but while people may want attention, whether it’s conceived as being an attention whore or not, they have their reasons. So all you can really do is help them, and maybe through that, realized they don’t need the attention of others to satisfy them. Don’t get me wrong, I completely understand the point of that thread and I truly agree, but in my short span of years, i’ve realized everyone has deep seeded problems that molds them into who they are. It could be a genetic disposition to something or a childhood building block they missed that altered who they would become. And there’s really no point in trying to fault people for that.
Also, glad to hear that you’re going to see her. I’m quite shy myself, but the only thing that has ever really helped it, is by my pushing myself into those situations.
Noone cries suicide.
Some cries of ending ones life are simply pleas of help. There pleas of recognition, final attempts for someone to see their pain and how close it has driven them to the edge. A please to be recognized as a hurting human in a world in which all they know is disregard.
Why should anyone’s pain be simply labeled as minute or not worthy of intervention? Are they just “teenagers crying wolf”simply becuase there are people in this world with bigger problems than these attention whores?
Never.
Pain is pain. We all know how it feels or else we wouldn’t have stumbled across this site. We all cope with it in different ways and its reason for this site that we learn and support one another from our past experiences so we can learn to overcome our obstacles in life and move on to brighter days.
So it your suicidal and thinking of ending, then let us know. Don’t be discourage to proclaim what your intentions are even if your not surely confident in going through with them. Let someone know becuase no one cries wolf regarding suicide.
http://suicideproject.org/2014/01/a-formal-goodbye/
http://suicideproject.org/2014/04/hello-47/#comments
^^ Read both of those post. That’s why we take everyone seriously here.
Noone cries suicide.
Some cries of ending ones life are simply pleas of help. There pleas of recognition, final attempts for someone to see their pain and how close it has driven them to the edge. A please to be recognized as a hurting human in a world in which all they know is disregard.
Why should anyone’s pain be simply labeled as minute or not worthy of intervention? Are they just “teenagers crying wolf”simply becuase there are people in this world with bigger problems than these attention whores?
Never.
Pain is pain. We all know how it feels or else we wouldn’t have stumbled across this site. We all cope with it in different ways and its reason for this site that we learn and support one another from our past experiences so we can learn to overcome our obstacles in life and move on to brighter days.
So it your suicidal and thinking of ending, then let us know. Don’t be discourage to proclaim what your intentions are even if your not surely confident in going through with them. Let someone know becuase no one cries wolf regarding suicide.
http :/ /suicideproject. org /2014/01/a-f ormal-*** dbye/
http :/ / suicideproject. org /2014/04/ hello-47/#comments
^^ Read both of those post. That’s why we take everyone seriously here.
Well said Koji….
Perfect example Koji, remember chatting with her a few times. Damn shame.
I know… Its really sad reading all her old posts and witnessing the decline and abuse she was tormented with.
That post kinda haunts me when I am on SP to this day. I really wish, honestly with everything, wished I could have helped her in some way…
I wish I wasn’t so late. 🙁
It wasn’t your fault man. There really isn’t much we can do, but offer to be a friend. And I catch myself reading old posts from long gone members I use to talk with too. It always chokes me up watching the timeline to there demise.
Ya I hear you on that.
I do the same as well.
But if your ever feeling down or need someone to talk to or anything, I am here for you man. Last we need is to see more people go you know, so anytime mate.
Thanks man, and right back at ya.
Koji, those posts you linked to were heartbreaking. 🙁
🙁 I know… I’m sorry…
You needn’t apologize.
I understand what you’re saying. I do. Only, I’ve just recently been a young teen a few years ago, so it’s fresh in my mind how it is to be mentally ill at that age. Just take a glance at the statistics; I’m not sure what they are in your country but in my country since the 90s suicide has been the largest killer of people ages 12-21. That says something I think. I also lost a very, very dear friend at the age of 13 to suicide and this post made my heart ache for her when I read the title.
I agree with snuffles and Koji even though I didn’t have the attention span to read their posts thoroughly. It’s true some posters here can try one’s patience. But it’s part of the magic of SP that they can still get a hearing, and a compassionate response. We’re not really plagued by trolls here (touch wood) like so many other sites. Melodramatic teens and suchlike often just need a space to open up about what’s really going on for them. When you scratch the surface you often find a genuinely troubled soul.
My apologies for all losses. My point in all this was that people need to realize they’ll get help on this site no matter what, not just due to the fact that they faked being suicidal. I just want society to take these threats more seriously. But your losses, all of them, I am sorry. I am empathetic towards you.