Just a glimpse into my ordinary life…I was at work just like every other day and decided to check my personal email on my phone during lunch. A funny yet perverted friend of mine found a craigslist ad and receive various semi-nude and nude photos from the person and he sent them to me. This is nothing new but in the pictures, the background items seemed familiar. I ask him to forward the email chain to me and I pulled the metadata from the pictures and they were taken at the same time as my wife was at a friend’s house out-of-state and the make and model of the phone was her old phone. So I bought a cheap laptop, installed the proper digital recovery tools, and recovered the images…they match. My guess it that she emailed them from her phone to a secret email. I figured since I am at it, why not see what I can recover from all the usb and camera memory cards…I found more nude images of her and other guys, and the dates on the photos. It killed me inside especially since we have a 3 year old and this has been going on since we started dating so 6 years total. Now I don’t know if the kid is mine since some of photos are of other’s having sex with her. If the dna test I ordered secretly for my son turns out that he is not mine. I don’t know what I will do. Hell, it doesn’t even matter, we are through, but if the test shows that he is not mine, I will kill myself, no doubt. I just bought a house about 2 months ago so I am in a quarter million dollars in debt from that and I am paying the car loan for both of the cars, and paying for other things. Hell, I moved out-of-state because of her job and spent 4 years working my way up in a new career field. She doesn’t know that I know yet, but I am waiting for the results first.
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holy fuck mate…im so sorry…fuck
or…you can use the photos to gain custody of your children and show them how a real parent acts. There are attorneys for fathers. It is not just a mother’s world out there. Judges will honor the most stable of you. Raising kids as a single father is hard but the payoff is beyond belief.
To add to JoeytheGreat’s comment,
You have the advantage right now — she doesn’t yet know that you’re on to her. Keep quietly collecting evidence. Hard as it will be, try to go on as usual and don’t give her any reason to think you might be suspicious. Document as much as you possibly can. Have a game plan, be prepared. Give her plenty of slack, and let her hang herself.
You said the photos you saw were older, yes? Things from the past, she might be able to con her way out of. If she’s still doing this *now*, though, and you have solid and copious evidence that can be presented in court, you do have a good shot at custody. If the DNA shows that your son isn’t biologically related, don’t give up. Talk to a lawyer (you should probably do that anyway). You might still have a good chance of getting custody.
Don’t falter, don’t question your decision; be brutal. Your child needs you; his welfare is at stake. Keep him in mind if you start second-guessing yourself.
Google “Talk About Marriage”, and read through the “Coping with Infidelity” forum. (I’d post the link, but I think that might flag my comment as spam)
There are people there who have been through what you’re going through, and there’s great advice there on what you need to do and how to be prepared before confronting your wife. Even if she’s caught off guard, it sounds like she’s got a history of being dishonest and manipulative, and it might be easy for her to get the upper hand. Make sure you’re ready for that; learn how to avoid the pitfalls and stay in control.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this — best of luck to you.
Iost is correct that it no longer matters much in courts about DNA. If you raised and love the child then its yours and nothing should stop you from continuing to be the best dad you can be for him.
You must think of the child, yours or not. She is obviously not a fit mother.