What is wrong with these people who bring kids into this world… reading some of these posts and seeing that many of us have to broadcast online for help or to express ourselves, when in actual fact they probably have family that can help and encourage… the worst and most painful thing ive been reading is when kids are telling their parents that they are depressed, and they respond in denial… yet when their kids do take their lives they play the guilt game and say if only I had known, wow I didnt understand they were in such deep pain. Oh if only I could have been there, if only I had listened, if only I could have helped… if you are a parent out there that can relTe to these conversations with your kids (not that I would expect any of them to be reading from a site like this) please do yourself a favor and your child a favor and give them more than you ever received. Dont wait till its too late… get a counselling session together if you can afford it or see your local priest for free and do one session together… there is help out there but theres no help if you remain ignorant.
I really feel for all on here who have their pain at levels it controls our thoughts to end it all.
Im walking testimony to coming from those parents. And they will be the exact victims I was talking about.
It doesnt matter how much money you have or havent got. Its probably worse when your parents do have money and alot of it. It real friggin sickening.
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There are too many reasons to list as to why parents don’t protect and support their children. Some reasons (like a parent struggling with two jobs) may be more understandable than others (bad parenting styles). There are other factors… How a parent was raised may work its way downward. Some parents have an ideal view of the world in which their child could “never” have any challenges.
I’m not trying to condone horrible parenting… There are just too many reasons to list and, unfortunately, it’s impossible to prevent.
I totally agree, im not the perfect person by any means. But there is enough resource out there for parents, even though no resource is required to listen, say I understand (even when they wont) and tell them that they are loved. You dont need to read that in a book or even watch the brady bunch for tips, its called human affection.
I think the source of the problem is without sounding like im being critical the world of parents but, getting drunk and having sex with or without the purpose of saying hey lets have kids because I want them to resemble and look like me and so I can be loved more than im getting or receiving from myself. I mean thats where the problem lays. There are many many orphans out there that would give you as much love that would cherish and appreciate feeling loved and wanted more so than their natural child.
Parenting 101.
Ill never understand how parents that once upon a time were there to nurture their child but 16 years down the track dont even wanna listen. I mean I didnt know what depression was until I was laying in my own blood at 20. Then only to realise I had those symptoms since I was 13. Lived in silence and my parents never realised or took notice and when they found out the situation of the ambulance and stuff I was overseas never to see them and talk about it until 3 years later.
?… because I felt so much shame and guilt I didnt want to talk to my parwnts about it… so my heart goes out to all those kids that have the courage enough to approach their parents knowing they are upset (not depressed) and perhaps not understand whats wrong with tjem but are feeling shame and guilt.
Sadly, this is one of those situations where it’s easy to identify the problem (parents not responding to cries for help) and much more difficult to find a solution. Often the problem involves multiple gaps. Sometimes not only did the parents miss (or not respond to) the cries for help, but so did schools, workplaces, peers, etc.
I was totally with you for like 99% of what you wrote.
It’s certainly not “worse” for wealthy families as a group than it is for poorer ones as a group, though. Poverty is directly linked to poor mental health outcomes, yet the best therapists are often out of poor people’s reach. (I also have yet to find a self-help book/video that isn’t aimed primarily at affluent middle class people with lots of social connections.)
@distant.road: It’s not impossible to prevent. :’) I’d guess a large part of it is just about raising awareness of all the denial and victim blaming that occurs. How many PSAs have you seen targeting entire dysfunctional families, or children of neglectful parents in a convincing (for the targetted individuals), impactful, and memorable way?