Peculiar sex-related issue

I need some help with this issue that has been making my life miserable. I hope someone knowledgeable will be able to advise me on what I need to do. I spent a very introverted life. I was a virgin while marrying. I found sex in marriage boring actually ! I couldnt make it pleasurable for her either. Then we got into some ego conflicts and finally separated. I lost my job too. I am unable to find another partner nor am I too keen as the wounds from my failed marruage havent healed completely. Now here is the strange issue. I have been watching/reading porn stuff that says like sex is a lot of pleasure and I am missing something important..vital. This thought is ever at the back of my mind… though my own sex experience of about 1 yr has been nothing worth it. But due to this peculiar idea.. whenever I see a woman.. of any age whatsoever I involuntarily jump… and in general feel awkward in their presence. Is this being sex – starved? Intuitively the women also realise my odd behaviour…though I try my best to conceal it. Its as if.. in the back of my mind there is a thought that women are so special…at any age..any woman…they can give a lot of pleasure… yet I dont get to be intimate with one. I am afraid of getting into another marriage for fear of the baggage associated… Logically I know that sex is exaggerated in porn… and in movies the actors are really just after your money… but my mind doesnt accept that…Should I visit a hooker and reassure myself… reassure my subconscious that women are just like men…that sex is not so divine pleasure…