So, I was thinking about telling my mum that I want to start going to therapy. But I have no clue whether seeing a therapist would help me at all.
I feel I have quite a few issues, and I’d like to talk to someone who knows what they’re doing, and maybe get a possible diagnosis for something, so I know I’m not crazy.
I’d like to be able to discuss the fact that I’m not happy with the way I look and feel, and how this has an effect on everyday things. Most days, I don’t want to go outside because people will see me, and I feel like they’re judging me. I want an explanation as to why I feel so depressed one minute, then absolutely perfect the next. I want to discuss my fear of talking to people and making mistake in public, because I feel like everyone will judge me. And I hate it. I’d also want to talk about the destructive feelings I’ve been having, because I don’t understand them.
The problem is my age. I’m not an adult yet, so would my mum have to know what my therapist and I discuss? Would she have to be part of decision making processes that affect me? Because I don”t want her to know what’s going on, I’d like it to be kept private, and I share the information that I want to share.
I also don’t want to put anymore pressure on my mum. My sister has mild autism and is being referred to a self-harm servicey thing, and I don’t want to be an additional burden on her.
What the hell should I do? I want to get help, but I don’t know whether it will work, and I don’t want to be a burden.
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If you think talking to someone would help you sort some things out, I’d so go for it.
And as far as what you discuss being shared with your parents, there is confidentiality except in a few cases. The only cases where the therapist would speak to your parents if you did not want them to due to your age is if you talk to them about plans of suicide (maybe self harm if it could kill you). They would want to try to make sure your environment is safe and such so they would speak to your parents about that, but nothing aside from that would be revealed.
So, from what I know, aside from making sure you are as safe as possible if suicidal, therapists are not allowed to tell your parents what you talk about unless you allow it.
Okay, I might go for it then if it’s confidential, thanks for your help!! 🙂 -M
You might want to ask your therapist first when you first meet him/her, because some do share info with your guardian (in this case your mom). The most common case is that everything you say is confidencial, and when it’s not they ask for your permission first, so yeah, i’d ask just to be sure. Good luck.
Okay, thanks, I’ll make sure to ask first 🙂 -M
It’s doctor patient confidentiality. The doctor is not allowed to tell anyone what you discuss unless you give him/her permission.
I got a therapist about two years ago. It felt good to have someone to talk to but when I realized that it was all about the money, I stopped. They will listen to you but they are paid to care. I have no friends. I have never had a job or a girlfriend. I have had very few friends from high school and college but no outside of those places.
That’s what I’m worried about, that they don’t really care. But hopefully it’ll be okay.
And I really hope that things get better for you, I really do. One day, you’ll meet people who like you for you and they’ll want to be your friends, maybe even your girlfriend? I wish you all the best 🙂 – M
Hey, try therapy. If you intuitively do not feel that the therapist cares or helps, go somewhere else if you can. The matters that concern you can be helped. You can learn skills that help. I wish you all good.
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Thank you, I’ll see how it goes 🙂 -M
Practically every post I’ve seen on this site is people saying they tried it, and it didn’t help. So that’s something to keep in mind. You going to therapy would make it apparent to you mom you have problems as well, and she would question you why you want to go.
That’s very true, which is why I’m worried about it, to be honest. She knows that I used to self harm, she doesn’t know that I still do, so yeah, she probably would want to know what’s going on.
Thanks for your comment, I’m taking all these things into consideration before I make a decision on what to do 🙂 – M