So you see, I used to have this boyfriend. He was practically my savior. He was the reason I didn’t commit suicide the first time. But he was one of a kind. He took interest in what I liked, he always supported me. He never pressured me and he was fun. He not once mentioned anything passed kissing so it never got awkward between us. He legitimately cared. Then one day he tells me he has to break up with me cuz of his father. Now here’s my problem. Everything reminds me of him and I still love him and miss him. All week I’ve cried every night and stood up thinking about him (I’m an insomniac. Even if I’m not thinking about him, I’m still always up). He was just the best in every way. You won’t even begin to understand how great of a guy he was. He gave me what no other guy in this world does anymore. Respect. But here’s the catch-22. He broke up with me over 10 months ago. What should I do? It’s tearing me apart.
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Damn I’m sorry to here that. Let me tell you something that is true from personal experience and from what I witnessed in my own life – If someone really loves you, NOBODY will talk them out of being with you. I do got a question – is he over 18?
We’re not over 18 yet
How old are yall?
how old are you? how old is he. because of his dad? not sure if that’s a legit explanation ? depends
I don’t really wanna give out personal stuff but below 18
Why did he need to breakup with you because of his father? Maybe if that was the only reason for the breakup, you guys could be together again in the future? After all, parents don’t really “own” their children. We are all free.
If he treated you with love, kindness and respect, it’s completely understandable to still think about him.. And missing someone you love/loved isn’t wrong. But ten months is a long time and for the sake of your heart, maybe you should consider moving on for good. Keep the good memories close to your heart. If he really loves you, time may fix what’s wrong and you can be together again someday.
I’m sorry for that. I do know how it feels to find someone different than the rest, only to have them go away (for whatever reason), and most of us will experience that in our lifetime. Even if you do get back with him eventually, you have to continue living, and i’m guessing that’s what he’d want for you as well (from the way you describe him). Like the comments above say, circumstances might change and he might be able to come back to you, but you should also consider that it might not happen.
10 months is a long time, yup, but everyone takes different amounts of time to heal, so what you feel is not rare (in some cases it has taken years for me). What you feel will diminish over time, but only if you try to accept things and try to let go (even if slowly).
This young man owes you more of an explanation than “it was his father.” Perhaps he was too shy to break up with you on his own. No matter what the case, what you are feeling is real and natural and painful, horribly painful. A person doesn’t ‘just get over’ that first lost friend or love. But eventually, you will feel better and go onward. I found that out when I was in my early twenties. And I wrote this: “Sometimes still I think I’ll never smile again, but the difference now, I know I will.”
That first love is the hardest to go onward from. And the teen years are the worst. I wish I could hold you while you cry, give you love and support to know you will get through this eventually. In the meantime, hold on tight and survive. Your tender heart is a treasure but also allows you to feel pain more than many do.
it has been ten months since the broke up, so i don’t think that talking about him and his father will help you. i very much doubt that your problem in life is the broke up. maybe you should try to identify the problem (or problems ) and work on it? as a last of advice, never depend upon others no matter what! people change, they change a lot that is how it is.