Hey everyone.
I’m a 22 year old guy with a boy and girl of 8months old *twins* and a wife my age. We have both full time jobs *i work in the morning, she in the evening, other week rotation.*
I love my wife very much, she’s from another country as mine, last few weeks it went downhill for us, we argue alot, fights, and I became in some kind of depression, I wanted to make her happy, instead of us. I did everything to do that, only making my life miserable.
I have alot anger in myself, in the years I dont say what I want to, I listen, I obey and thats it. Last weeks I am having trouble on work with someone, he makes me pissed off everyday.
Today was the last bit of being strong to myself, and the rest of the people around me, I collapse. My wife promised me to stay up, have a talk with me and have fun. Drink something together. While I was at work, she had a brother and a friend over, they drinked a few together. It was alot, i noticed when I came home. My wife was asleep when I got home. She promised me not to drink and wait for me to get home.
I was already pissed off about the guy at work, i was so angry when I got home, hoping my wife was waiting for me. I found out she was drunk in bed, sleeping. I got so pissed i woke her up. She asked me what i wanted, i said i want your love. I want you. I want your company. She didnt wanted to listen. At this moment, I grabbed the bottle. I am litteraly done with this life, and everything.
I dont get any love. Not from my parents, my wife, my family.
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I’m sorry you feel this way. i really am. i don’t know you at all, but i read through your post and i needed to say something.
Each of us deserve love if we’re good people. From what i’ve read on your post, you’re a nice person, and you love your wife, and i’m sure you love your children.
the sad truth of the matter, though, is that it always rains hardest on the people that deserve the sun – we all go through so much.
about your wife, you should try talking to her again, about how you feel. Its hard, i know. I can’t even talk to my closest friend about much anymore, because my confidence and self worth is seemingly inexistent.
but try, alright? maybe talk to her about what she did, and how you didn’t appreciate it whatsoever.
it always gets better. never think that you are unloved, because somewhere, someone is head-over-heels for you. and even if they aren’t, don’t worry. You can love yourself. Love your faults, and don’t be angry at yourself for other people’s wrongdoings.
i hope it works out for you. Best of luck.
I’m sorry about that. It’s times like those when you end up realizing that you cannot rely on other people (at least most of the time), because they’ll just end up disappointing you, even if they do love you. Keep in mind tho, we ourselves will disappoint a lot of people in our lifetime, because no one is perfect.
I know it might not be easy, but you might try cooling of a bit and having a talk with your wife when she’s sober. Both of you are relatively young and two kids at that age… that must be a constant stress source, and i’m pretty sure it isn’t an easy situation.
Even if it’s a good thing that you tried to put yourself aside for your family, it can create way too many issues on the long run, which in turn can wreck all the sacrifices you made along the way. Resentment isn’t a good foundation for a healthy relationship, let alone a family, so try talking it over and see if you can get some sort of agreement or compromise that fixes things a bit for you as well. Nothing worse than a boiler exploding after years of steam build up. I wish you luck, hopefully things will get better for you.
I don’t have children do I don’t speak from experience. I have heard however that post-children the dynamics of a relationship and household change. You both need to be on the same page to make things work but I’m sure that it can be possible. Seeking out counselling is a good idea. Your children need a father and a mother. They’re innocent and need you.
I hear you on work. Working with people can be very difficult and I speak from experience. When I was at work (I’m on disability for now) I was the guy that tried to avoid a lot of socks navigation…. people at work generally suck.
Stick around and work things through.
Hang in there…. it’ll get better.
My son was the only reason I stayed alive. This would be the worst thing possible to do to.them at this age. You need to stop drinking and take your responsibilities seriously. Is your partner capable of raising 2 babies alone? Thsee are rough times, you need to stick it out until she’s financially on her feet, at the very least.