so I told the guy who likes me about my depression and that I cut and u want to kill myself so he told me he’s suicidal and cuts he also said that he’s psychopath because he’s though of running away from home and being a serial killer he said he has anger problems so his problems are worst then mine he’s been through a lot of things and I feel selfish for feeling like this I want to help him but how and can you guys give me some advice about all this
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Does not sound like a match made in heaven. If you have some problems it might be wise to be around people who lift you up. This guy sounds like he’s just going to drag you deeper into the muck
That sounds selfish, but it’s the old airplane analogy. Secure your own oxygen mask first before you attempt to save others.
He said he wants to help me and he’s helped other people before and I want to help him but how
I don’t know..anyone who proclaims them self a psychopath and has goals to be a serial killer with anger problems the best way to help them is NOT be their next victim. I would RUN, RUN RUN.
Tell him to visit a therapist/psychiatrist. Sounds like he has some serious issues and might need medication. Being a serial killer is NOT cool. I will never understand that because killing innocents who did nothing to deserve their death makes no sense whatsoever.
My son told me two years ago he was a sociopath and how he “felt nothing.” Being the good, non-alarmest parent I am, I asked if this worried him. Naturally, he answered, “fuck no – I said I’m a sociopath!” I asked him to please go into banking and send me a check every time he foreclosed on a granny.
Some time after that he ended up in a menial job working with a tiny woman from Guatemala who spoke no English and couldn’t read or write. He spent the next year – voluntarily – teaching her basic literacy. I wisely kept my mouth shut about how that wasn’t very sociopathic.
He was the second person she told that she was pregnant (she and her husband had been trying for several years). He was overjoyed. He was the second person she told that she miscarried. He was devastated. At that moment I knew he would be all right in the long run.
What I’m trying to say here is that most of us start off life with very limited options – being kids and all. You aren’t really going to know who you are until you’ve been seriously tested by circumstance.
It may seem that you or someone you know is filled with rage or lacks empathy. Anger oft fades. Empathy can be grown. Just because your body has filled out and you have a driver’s license doesn’t mean your social sensibility has finished developing.
As far as your friend goes, the best thing you can do for him is listen. You can’t fix him, but you can comfort him. If his actions become extreme – serious self harm, buying guns, or a love of bluegrass music – you’ll need to do the hard thing and get as far away from him as you can.
That’s a great story about your son. His admittance that he feels nothing and he’s a psychopath was a tip off that he isn’t a sociopath. Probably the same could be said for What’swrongwithme’s friend. I think a true psychopath will freely tell you about his many victims, but he/she won’t admit there’s anything wrong with them. They usually have a magnetic personality, charming smile. Check out Jake Gyllenhaal’s movie “Night Crawler” or Charles Manson. Still..it’s best to watch their actions very closely and be ready to get away, like you said.
@dare.poe Very wise comment, as usual.
You can try to help each other – try to point him in the right direction and be there for him to talk to (and vice versa – any problems you have are just as valid). That’s the best you can do. Hopefully he’ll try to listen to you. Just be wary if he doesn’t, and seems to be going down a dark path. You can’t always change people. Given that he’s telling you about those thoughts, he’s probably not the most likely person to do it, but still, be aware.
Ya I second that-get him into therapy, he could become a serious danger to others. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to learn in a year or so that he killed 20 people or something. Help him if you can but like Randall said, you should also take care of yourself first.
Ok so he only thinks that way because some people shot and killed his best friend right in front of him and he hasn’t killed anyone and I’m gonna try and convince him to get help he’s angry because of what happened
Sorry to hear that and I wouldn’t blame him for being angry, anyone would be-if that happened to them. But since you said he admitted he wants to be a serial killer-that’s something serious and he’d need to get help.