The latest in a series of shitty things that are happening to me is that my best friend has decided that she hates me. I had never shared with her anything about my depression until I learned that she had tried to kill herself and was put into a mental hospital, that was six months ago. Yesterday night me and her had been drinking, I told her I didn’t want to drink because I don’t like how she gets when she’s drunk. She didn’t listen and got very angry and upset. She wanted me to move in with her, but I don’t have the money to pay the rent. She started yelling at me that I needed her to take care of me and that I wouldn’t make it another year on my own. I told her why I couldn’t move in and she just got more angry. Then she started saying that I had no reason to be depressed and I just want attention and that I deserve to feel depressed because I’m not grateful for what I have. Then she proceeded to tell me I can’t be depressed because I’m thin and because I’m pretty and that she would kill to look like me. I tried to explain to her that I don’t feel pretty and how I was feeling, but she just got more angry and started pushing me. I tried to get her to go to bed since she was drunk, but she wouldn’t. I’m a petite girl and she’s probably twice my size, she wouldn’t let me leave. When I tried to get her to go bed, she bit and drew blood. I finally had a friend come and get me, but I felt bad for leaving her so upset, but she was getting physically violent with me.
She has been trying to call me all day, I texted her and told her that I was upset with her and I didn’t want to talk when I was upset so I wouldn’t say anything I didn’t mean and that I wasn’t in the mood to be criticized since she was saying I was a terrible friend for leaving her drunk and upset. So a few minutes ago she sent me this very long text telling me what a horrible friend I was, that I was so negative and that my life would always be terrible. She also told me she was going to laugh so hard when my family had to go to my funeral and that no one would ever care about me. Finally, she said she was done with me and would never speak to me again.
So I lost my best friend of five years and I feel so stunned because it went from us having a good time to her telling me all these horrible things that made me feel so humiliated. Now I feel more alone than ever.
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Your not alone. Someone one is always there for you. Though I’m not physically there, I can always listen and converse with you. I apologize that your friend acted in such a horrific manor. It was very low and speaks to her immaturity. I’m sure that experience does not ultimately define her. So I am not saying she was of no friend ever at all. As time goes by if she attempts to re establish speaking terms and then ultimately the friendship, be cautious for your own sake. I’m not saying shut her out and never let her into your circle of friends again, only saying take it slow. And truly get to know who she is and that the friendship will be a healthy one for the two of you in the end.
She’s got her demons, too. Drinking will let them out. Understand her pain, but draw the line at abuse.
Your ‘friend’ is projecting-she’s accusing you of the things that she’s actually doing. She’s the one being a bad friend, treating you unfairly and hurting you, mentally and physically.
Biting you and causing you to bleed is going way too far. She needs to get her shit together-she should’ve apologized, but instead she’s playing the victim while actually victimizing you.
You’re better off without her and it’s a good thing you didn’t move in with her-or it’d turn into an abusive relationship, where you get to be her punching bag.
Being unemployed puts you in a vulnerable position and at the whim of whoever you live with. Assuming you’re old enough to work, hopefully you can find a decent job and live independently so you’re under no one’s thumb.