falling in love is like fucking serotonin and dopamine in the brain…
so wouldn t it make sense to give you that push you need to get out of the hell hole?
Hi alexia. In my opinion, you are partially right and partially wrong. Yes, serotonin and dopamine is released during activities related to falling or staying in love. But it also releases oxytocin. Oxytocin is usually released during and after sex, during and after kissing, and during and after hugging; basically, during and after any intimate/romantic act. The problem with oxytocin is that it makes people attached to their partners. This attachment can border on dependency. A depressed person can easily slip into dependency with their romantic partners. When their romantic partners start to detach, break up, and/or drift away, the dependent person can and will slip further into depression.
This is what happened to me. While my ex was deeply in love with me, she became all my depressive/mood disorder medicines rolled into one. When she was sick and tired of my mood swings and when she was disenchanted by the intensity of our relationship, she left me. No amount of the true depressive and mood disorder medications helped me. I was in so much pain that I felt that there was no sense in living anymore. This is when I committed my first completed suicide attempt; a failure as it didnt kill me, but it was completed as I ODed and completed the act already.
it totally makes sense what u r saying. for that reason i am trying to build a life for myself that doesn t necessary include her. i m trying to be ok by myself before i can be with her… we r just starting to have something. and there s distance too. oxytocin has not been released though we re fond of one another. i just know she s a good antidepressant for me…something that really works and makes me want things again and work on myself and my life…
It varies. I’m not cured. Cope isn’t. But it’s easier to get through the dark times. We can pull each other out of our respective downward spirals. Not always; our individual problems were there a long time before we met each other, and we can’t solve everything just by loving each other. But it truly is easier having someone there who understands the tricks one’s head can play on one. On the other side of that, my ex and I were a dangerous combination. We were incredibly codependent for a very long time, and we dragged each other down further. It masqueraded as love, and it really, really wasn’t. And as mysteriousvisitor noted, depression has many causes. A person is not a substitute for an antidepressant if you are one of the unfortunate souls unlucky enough to need meds to control your illness (as I am), and trying to make them into one is a disaster waiting to happen. Love can’t eliminate it, no. But make it easier to handle? Yes. As long as the love is healthy and founded on honest, healthy terms, yes.
at this point she doesn t know abt my depression. she doesn t see it because when i m talking to her and such…it doesn t really manifest itself. i m def not trying to get hooked on her or to get “high” but i know how much it helps so i m using that to rebuild a life for myself. i did tell her multiple times i m fucked up…her response is ” i like fixing ppl and i m here to stay”…i told her i m too much for fixing..but dunno.i guess the only one that can do the fixing is me.
More than love it might have to be with the initial rush of interacting with someone that you love. That (sadly) does wear out, and like others commented above, does depend on the person and the type/extent of their problems. So…yup, i guess i’m on the “helps, but doesn’t eliminate” camp. It might trigger some needed changes that help you eliminate depression tho? … that kinda sounds more plausible to me (depending on whether you believe if depression can be cured or not… but that’s a whole other issue),
Wtf is love… But i agree with HanceSolows reply. I’m a bit biased trying to answer this as i am uninterested in life. I only have an online boyfriend and its like i am co-dependant on him. I see it as a pokie machine, your brain wants more and more. It kinda becomes an addiction. I cant really say if love is making anything better (its not so far) as i have never met him in real life
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I dont think so. It will always depend on your depression, the reasons. If it can help? Maybe.
No it doesn’t, it just distracts you for a while. Then you fall out of love and become depressed again.
falling in love is like fucking serotonin and dopamine in the brain…
so wouldn t it make sense to give you that push you need to get out of the hell hole?
Hi alexia. In my opinion, you are partially right and partially wrong. Yes, serotonin and dopamine is released during activities related to falling or staying in love. But it also releases oxytocin. Oxytocin is usually released during and after sex, during and after kissing, and during and after hugging; basically, during and after any intimate/romantic act. The problem with oxytocin is that it makes people attached to their partners. This attachment can border on dependency. A depressed person can easily slip into dependency with their romantic partners. When their romantic partners start to detach, break up, and/or drift away, the dependent person can and will slip further into depression.
This is what happened to me. While my ex was deeply in love with me, she became all my depressive/mood disorder medicines rolled into one. When she was sick and tired of my mood swings and when she was disenchanted by the intensity of our relationship, she left me. No amount of the true depressive and mood disorder medications helped me. I was in so much pain that I felt that there was no sense in living anymore. This is when I committed my first completed suicide attempt; a failure as it didnt kill me, but it was completed as I ODed and completed the act already.
it totally makes sense what u r saying. for that reason i am trying to build a life for myself that doesn t necessary include her. i m trying to be ok by myself before i can be with her… we r just starting to have something. and there s distance too. oxytocin has not been released though we re fond of one another. i just know she s a good antidepressant for me…something that really works and makes me want things again and work on myself and my life…
It might not elliminate, but I believe it will alleviate (perhaps significantly so).
probably so…just know that i m trying to build a life for myself again. she gave me that push and doesn t even know it..
For sure. Best wishes.
I really believe it depends on the individual. Depression has many causes and manifests in many different ways.
It varies. I’m not cured. Cope isn’t. But it’s easier to get through the dark times. We can pull each other out of our respective downward spirals. Not always; our individual problems were there a long time before we met each other, and we can’t solve everything just by loving each other. But it truly is easier having someone there who understands the tricks one’s head can play on one. On the other side of that, my ex and I were a dangerous combination. We were incredibly codependent for a very long time, and we dragged each other down further. It masqueraded as love, and it really, really wasn’t. And as mysteriousvisitor noted, depression has many causes. A person is not a substitute for an antidepressant if you are one of the unfortunate souls unlucky enough to need meds to control your illness (as I am), and trying to make them into one is a disaster waiting to happen. Love can’t eliminate it, no. But make it easier to handle? Yes. As long as the love is healthy and founded on honest, healthy terms, yes.
at this point she doesn t know abt my depression. she doesn t see it because when i m talking to her and such…it doesn t really manifest itself. i m def not trying to get hooked on her or to get “high” but i know how much it helps so i m using that to rebuild a life for myself. i did tell her multiple times i m fucked up…her response is ” i like fixing ppl and i m here to stay”…i told her i m too much for fixing..but dunno.i guess the only one that can do the fixing is me.
More than love it might have to be with the initial rush of interacting with someone that you love. That (sadly) does wear out, and like others commented above, does depend on the person and the type/extent of their problems. So…yup, i guess i’m on the “helps, but doesn’t eliminate” camp. It might trigger some needed changes that help you eliminate depression tho? … that kinda sounds more plausible to me (depending on whether you believe if depression can be cured or not… but that’s a whole other issue),
Wtf is love… But i agree with HanceSolows reply. I’m a bit biased trying to answer this as i am uninterested in life. I only have an online boyfriend and its like i am co-dependant on him. I see it as a pokie machine, your brain wants more and more. It kinda becomes an addiction. I cant really say if love is making anything better (its not so far) as i have never met him in real life
Sometimes two can tackle problems one finds baffling.