Im really fat, i dont feel good the way i am, i wan to be skinny, i wanna have thigh gaps, so i started to vomit after every meal and my parents caught me, and now they dont let me go to bathroom by myself and they are checking on me all the time, they’re making me eat lots of food and im getting fatter that what i already am, im going crazy i really dotn know what to do about this situation, im going crazy, i feel frustratded. I need some HELP ME PLEASE IF YOU KNOW WHAT CAN I DO ABOUT THIS?
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I don’t think vomitting after every meal is going to help you to reach your weight goals. If you’ve been using food as a coping mechanism for deeper issues, you should get to the heart and root of those issues. What I would do is get a good diet and exercise plan together and stick to it. I would drink plenty of water each day without over-doing it and eat four decent sized meals instead of three large ones and just stick to my plan until my desired weight goal is achieved.
Also, instead of eating brownies all the time, I’d change that up to fruits and veggies for snacks (which I actually really love, btw). Do things like that and you should be on a healthier track in no time.
I tried it before, but it didnt work, and now my parents are making me eat a lot of food, a full sized plate, and they’re watching me eat it every fucking time
You tried the good diet and exercise plan? Try talking to your parents. I hope you do not have parents like I did who couldn’t be talked to — and basically only abused. Your parents should be on your side and helping, not working against you.
In the past, I’ve found that high-fiber things will do wonders for weight loss.
But they won’t help you at all if you throw them up.
It’s important to be best friends with yourself no matter what the outer shell of your body looks like. Society pushes the idea that thin is good and fat is bad.
Society sometimes needs a heavy slap across the face for pushing that idea onto people.
Anyway, if you honestly want to lose weight, I recommend doing it slowly and safely with a variety of high-fiber things in healthy amounts.
Im truly going nuts, like all i wanna do after eating is vomiting but i cant and its really killing me
Dear 2717, I am going to say this as nicely as I can, no offence meant to anyone, but hey, as must people outside here will tell you the wrong things when you name suicide, here people can’t give you the right advice about your eating disorder.
Keep reading, I am trying to help. First, you know what I am talking about. You ain’t fat as society would define it. You are fat under your own parameters, so we know it is not about having a regular diet here.
So if you want your parents to stop making you eat, you are going to have to make them believe they can trust you again. That means they must believe you can eat without hurting yourself for it.
The idea: do it… for a while, the longer the better. Reorganize your eating customs and once your family sees you are doing better you can have your independence back, and you will be able to decide again what is best for you.
But remember you are a valuable person being fat or skinny… I know you don’t believe me, but it’s not your corporal fat what makes you beautiful or ugly. Don’t believe what anas and mias tell you. Physical beauty is never about being unhealthy.
One support net coud be fitspo… forget about being thin the important goal now is being fit and healthy. It works.
Please talk to me…
Well, Moenypenny, i feel bad the way i am, its just i dont feel good, i feel fat and im fat, thanks, i really appreciate.
Yeap you are right… sorry.
I am fat too and it makes me feel weak 🙁 but I have been trying to heal that too… so I am working on controlling food issues, its just that it takes sooo looong… I am trying to be patient here… but I know my case is different. So I am sorry for talking too much
Like what drives me crazy is the idea of getting fatter you know? I’ve through a lot of shit to lose some weight and i dont wanna lose this effort that i’ve put on, i took lot of shit to be skinny or at least try to be and im not going back just because my parent’s fault.But i know that we will do it, we will be skinny or be happy either of both.
Like what drives me crazy is the idea of getting fatter you know? I’ve through a lot of shit to lose some weight and i dont wanna lose this effort that i’ve put on, i took lot of shit to be skinny or at least try to be and im not going back just because my parent’s fault. But i know that we will do it, we will be skinny or be happy either of both.
2717, if you feel overweight and unhealthy then I believe you. If you’re truly unhappy with your weight then you should change it. Your parents forcing food on you is their own coping mechanism for not understanding you. Maybe if you spelled it out for them it would be easier on everyone. Say “mom dad, a healthy weight for my age and height is xxx lbs. That’s my target.” Maybe then they won’t think you’re just starving yourself to death.
I have a small frame and I’m sick of people telling me I need to gain weight. That’s as rude as telling someone they need to lose weight. but somehow society doesn’t see it that way. Your parents need to learn how to let you be who you want to be, that means fat, skinny, gay, straight, or whatever. That’s where confidence comes from, becoming who you want to be.
Hey 2717,
I understand your predicament and have some advice but don’T know if it will work for you like it has worked for me…
So first of all, I too have an eating disorder but don’T vomit at everymeal. I have a strict diet anyway due to health issues and my mom watches what I eat (amount and all) like a hawk. She however doesn’t know about my disorder… anyway what I have down for weightloss is actually pretty scientific.. I hope you hear me out.
So eating a bunch of food at once, three meals a day is actually not good for your stomach’s digestive system. Haha I don’t know the exact reason but it has to do with too much to do at once. So this can mess up metabolism and can also effect weight. So here is what I have done…
I have found out that it is much healthier to eat several times a day in small amounts. So maybe about 5 times a day would be fine and just do small amounts of food. Nothing huge. This allows your stomach to digest the small portions individual and is way better for your bodies digestive system. Also you are still getting your nutrients and such through out the day.. you’re just not eating it all at once.
I did this back in December and lost 20 pounds with in a 3 week time period and ive maintaned a satisfying weight since then… I didn’t exercise besides doing PE in school (but does that really count). I’m also vegetarian so I don’t eat alot of fatty/high calorie foods. And I’m gluten free.. so cutting down a little on the bread intake can also help a little with the weight.
So you could present this idea to your parents. I wouldn’t suggest vomiting though because it’s hard on your body and can have lasting effects later.. but that’s just my opinion.
I hope this is of some help to you. And I hope it gets better with your parents.. ?
As someone else who has an eating disorder I gotta get you. Throwing up does nothing good. I threw up for years and now my stomach is really messed up. I have horrible reflux and get sick very easily. I can’t help but to think it’s from all my years purging, around 20. It’s a hard habit to break once it becomes ingrained. I sometimes throw up without meaning to if I eat too much. I haven’t been actively purging in a few years now but it happens all too easily. I take medicine on a daily basis for my stomach now and it’s often multiple meds, I never bothered to ask my doctor if I brought this all on myself because I already know the answer. My advice to you is if you feel you really need to lose weight, try to do it in a healthy manner. Eating disorders are pure hell. I’ve been sick in some manner since I was 15. I’m 37 now and heavier than I d like to me for sure but I know my body can’t handle much more disordered eating. The thoughts stick with you even when the habits aren’t as active. Try to tolerate your parents even though it sucks.. been there. When they back off, look for healthy choices because in the long run it’s the best thing to do.
Opps, get you should say tell you
You need to take back control of your life 2717. That is what eating disorders are about, you are trying to control that one thing because everything else is spinning out of control. When was the last time you stood up to your folks? Maybe you have to scream/shout/cry/sulk to get them to listen to you? The only reason they are taking control of something as basic as your eating and going to the bathro is because they don’t trust you to live your own life. Believe, I know, because I have been there. It was only when I left home, by force, that I realized just how much my folks were killing me with their kindness. Find your inner strength girl. The next time there is a plate in front of you full of food that you don’t want to eat, pretend that you are completely ice on the inside and say quietly and deliberately: No. This is my body. I know what is good for it.
Then only eat the salads/greens on your plate and walk away. (It helps if someone else is preparing your food to be very complimentary about the salads, because they will prepare them more).
Also start exercising. It won’t necessarily make you lose weight but you will feel happier and stronger about life.
Thanks for the help, yeah i know this is not healthy but i truly dont give a shit about my body, or anything that has to do with me, i just wanna feel good no matter what it takes to be honest. Today i realized that i have gain 2 pounds more which makes me feel fucking depressed, is making me lose my mind, if i continue this way i might get even more fat again, i hate it, i know that i’ll get fat again if i continue eating this way…
i’m sorry.. and i totally understand. i’m here if you want to talk.