Hi all,
This is one of my first posts here.
A few years ago, I was in a pretty dark place. I was convinced that my life was a burden and that I’d never be able to shake the bad thoughts that came persistently. Every day was a struggle. Nothing was improving and I was getting suicidal thoughts.
Some of you may be in the same or a similar situation. Please know that things get better. I’m still here. I’m still fighting. It is a fight. It might be the hardest thing you do, but you’re worth it. You’re worth the fight and life is worth fighting for.
You have no idea how valued and needed you are in this world. People need you. People need your good. People you haven’t even met yet are going to need your talent, ability, effort, hope, happiness. Even your smile can mean the world to someone.
I truly believe that God gives His hardest assignments to His strongest soldiers, and that through these tests He makes them even stronger.
You are that soldier. He’s making you stronger. This pain won’t break you: it will make you.
I can’t emphasise it enough. It may some bleak now, it may seem like nothing is going right and that everything is just getting worse, it may seem like your life is just pointless, but you’re still here, and somebody needs you to be in their life. Your parents, your siblings, your family-members, your friends: they all need you because you have a good soul and your love makes their lives better, and your life is better for it.
Someone in a similar position to you is going to need you. They’re going to be hurting, they’re going to have those same doubtful thoughts, and you can provide to them that healing, that hope, because you’ve made it. You’ve endured the hurt that they’re going through.
Also, you deserve to be happy. Find what pure thing makes you joyful and celebrate in it. Remember it and go after it. Eat some chocolate. Watch a TV show from your childhood and enjoy being nostalgic. Listen to an uplifting song (James Taylor’s “Mexico” always makes me happy). Watch It’s A Wonderful Life (that film pulled me out of one of my darkest every days, and I believe it will do the same for you).
I understand that some of you don’t believe in God, but it was only by His Grace that I survived. Take faith and hope in Jesus Christ––He will save you and bring you into a joy and completeness you can not even imagine.
I’m praying for you all. Stay strong, be happy, and God Bless
16 comments
1. I hate god
2. I’m SO sick of hearing this kind of bjllshit
jcau,
Thank you for posting this, I know some people don’t want to hear this kind of stuff, but some people need it. I know you weren’t saying it to me specifically but it’s a nice thing to say and it made me feel good for a bit.
So thank you and hope you have a wonderful day.
Thank you 🙂 It means a lot. You hang in there & keep feeling good. God Bless you.
Note to OP, please prove me wrong.
Every few weeks a new member appears and makes a drive-by post strongly resembling the one you just made. If you truly believe it and are dedicated to helping others, then stick around, read people’s stories and offer some supportive, personalized thoughts. Generalizations like “things get better” and “pain won’t break you” aren’t well received here. Because the truth is people kill themselves every day, proving you wrong. Try not to use generalizations here because everyone’s story is different. Also try not to use absolutes like “Jesus Christ will save you”. Tell that to my best friend who blew his brains out. Again, I hope you prove me wrong and you’re actually dedicated to sticking around and LISTENING to people, not preaching like so many other drive-by saviors I’ve seen here. At any rate, your goodwill is appreciated, it’s just your method that’s questionable.
Nice. I really liked this comment :). Very well said
I thought posts like this were against the rules.
Totally agree FF. Love your new term “drive-by saviors.”
I don’t get how a general post of cliched, feel-good blanket statements is supposed to help me. You don’t know my life, you don’t know the kind of struggles I have, and you certainly do not have a crystal ball. You cannot “know that things will be better.” For some it will, for some it won’t, and for some it’ll get much much worse. That’s how life is.
If things always got better for everyone, then trust me, 99% of the world population who suffers from depression would not be depressed. Sometimes your health fails, and there’s no recovering from that. Aging happens, and there’s no recovering or escaping that. Sometimes life gets better for some people, sometimes it stays bad, and for others it gets much worse. That’s the reality.
Oh, God! Please! Save me from yourself and your flock, who continually barrage me with cliche’d assertions without evidence or merit! I know you are powerless to do anything and must have your followers perform your insecure wishes on your behalf, but at least tell them to knock it off already! Amen.
At least speaking for myself, I can say that I was in a way worse mood before reading this post then I am after this post. If only because of the comedic effect that the mix of raw optimism and evangelical mumbo jumbo had on me.
So thank you.
Okay you guys took this the wrong way. I think the author was writing something that his or her past self would have needed to hear to get through whatever the fuck he or she got through. Do you ever like, write letters to yourself? I do, they used to be super positive and hopeful but that definitely took a turn… But all I’m saying is that I think the author posted this because they figured maybe they could help someone out a little.
You wouldn’t believe the harm people cause other people because they “figure maybe they could help someone out a little”. Especially in the name of God.
Oh I could definitely believe it though, I mean I’ve seen it. Personally I don’t believe in god, but when I see people that do I just let them be, I think it’s good for people to have something like that, some little sense of meaning or whatever. And maybe I’m wrong but don’t really see the harm this post could do.
I agree with you. But @foreverfalling summed it up perfectly. Gave the OP the benefit of the doubt and feedback on a slightly better way to approach people here in general. No ill will from what I can tell.
Well alright I see that, foreverfalling did make some good points, and the approach could definitely be improved. I know when I’m in a really negative place and I hear these lines, I get a little peeved because for me it’s meaningless now. But there was a point in my life when that kinda shit actually helped and made me feel better. We’re all at different points here.
But I do see what you’re saying,
Is that kind of like how Chick tracks were written by a guy who just really wanted to help people suffering under the burden of their sinful lifestyles? I had a coworker once who slept in his car with his estranged girlfriend. He used to preach about how Jesus saved him from a life of snorting powdered marijuana off the stomachs of male hookers. Sure, I get it. Religion helps some people feel better, and gives them some structure to their lives. The problem is, the cure is worse than the disease, if the disease is simply being alive and having to make difficult choices. After you hear so many stories like that, it all starts sounding like some weird sales pitch for an old book written by nomadic goat herders in the ancient near-east.