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My family can’t relate.

by deathberry

I have reach an stalemate in my fight against depression. My family doesn’t believe in mental health and I don’t have any close friend willing to share my troubles.

I feel so lonely. I don’t know what to do.

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Once 3/1/2021 - 10:44 pm

Unfortunately depression is a lonely condition. It’s socially unacceptable to be depressed because polite society demands strength and stiff upper lips, no surrender, damn the torpedoes full speed ahead, etc. There is no room for our weakness, except in the profit columns of every pharmaceutical companies balance sheet. They’re making several pretty pennies off our loneliness. You’re not as alone as you think, despite all the silence. I’m several decades into this nonsense myself and if all of us were assembled into an army and given weapons, we could do some serious damage. There’s a lot of us out here, we’re just conditioned to keep our sad mouths closed so as to not depress the non-depressed. I feel you.

Once 3/1/2021 - 10:45 pm

Unfortunately depression is a lonely condition. It’s socially unacceptable to be depressed because polite society demands strength and stiff upper lips, no surrender, damn the torpedoes full speed ahead, etc. There is no room for our weakness, except in the profit columns of every drug companies balance sheet. They’re making several pretty pennies off our loneliness. You’re not as alone as you think, despite all the silence. I’m several decades into this nonsense myself and if all of us were assembled into an army and given weapons, we could do some serious damage. There’s a lot of us out here, we’re just conditioned to keep our sad mouths closed so as to not depress the non-depressed. I feel you.

Soda 3/2/2021 - 1:57 am

Once summed it up well. Few people will be able to relate unless they’ve gone through it themselves.

The wisdom I’ve gleaned from the times I was depressed was that it’s important to sit down and just think of what caused it. Then to try to find solutions to alleviate the problem that may have triggered that state.

Sometimes we can be caught up in our own feedback loop. Negative feelings about life, self-perception, the sense that it won’t get better no matter what you do and that sort of defeatist thinking keeps you trapped in that mindset for weeks, months even years.

In my case it’s a long story so I’ll spare you the details, suffice it to say it ruined a couple of years of university until I finally realized that I needed to get on with life since failure was never an option for me.

While I did have suicidal thoughts I decided that I wasn’t going to end my life so I got back in the game and finished my difficult degree program and started working after that.

It could help to read some psychology books on depression. What also helps is to keep a normal routine, sleep/eat on time, get exercise, socialize with friends/family and watch movies/go places that make you happy. Eventually you’ll be fine.

Some people have a chemical imbalance in the brains or they have a genetic disposition for depression, so that’s something you’d have to determine by seeing a psychiatrist for instance.

blue_dude15 3/2/2021 - 2:23 am

Ah, that really sucks. My family is also like that – my mum believes that depression in children is caused by too much technology, so if I did end up telling my family my dad would probably laugh at me and my mum would just take away all my technology which would only make it worse. Sorry for the rant, I hope things get better for you.

Idfk anymore, I'm just here I guess 3/2/2021 - 6:10 am

Uh

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