My boyfriend has seen my healed scars but when he asked what they were from I lied. I’m 27 days clean and I think I want to tell him but I’m so scared about what he’ll think. Any tips for telling people about self harm?
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Be honest. Anyone who isnt ready for the truth isnt worth wasting time with. Truth is the beginning to understanding. Thank you for telling us. I can accept you as you, pain and ache and all. Healing has many levels and takes many forms.
Hey I’ve been there. Telling didn’t go well for me. I guess it depends on your partner. If you’re scared about the way he will think, then maybe there’s a reason.. you know him better than anyone. I can only share my experience, my partner was judgmental and held it over my head and when I relapsed it led to a bad breakup. Like I said, depends on the person, there’s no clearcut answer. Does your bf judge you for little things or do you see him making snarky comments about others? If he does then do NOT tell him. But if he’s tolerant and accepting of everyone then definitely share. But my guess is if he was tolerant and accepting then you wouldn’t be scared to tell him. Just an opinion of someone who’s been there. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this but CONGRATS on 27 days free, that’s amazing. Maybe you can stay clean and you won’t ever have to tell him.
Don’t ever speak about this , hope you didn’t , people don’t respect anyone shows a weakness and sometimes if it wasn’t always will use this against the person or even hurt them physically , no one will understand unliss they do or did the same , even with that don’t tell them.