You. Yes, YOU! You need to blow off steam like an overworked, piston pounding engine about to explode. Do not bottle up your emotions, or they will shatter the container as if it was flung against the wall. You must air out your dirty laundry or it will make the house smell like the inner layer of an angry sumos diaper. Venting. It is a healthy necessary, natural process that everyone should exercise to prevent pent up anger, ulcers, tumors, stress, and a faithul re-enactment of call of duty in the park/office/or school. …Or is the idea of venting just a load of hot air?
It may suprise you to learn that it is. Talking about what makes you angry, shouting cuss words at the dips:-)t that cut you off, punching a pillow with a picture of your enemy taped to it: all these coping techiniques actually raise blood pressure, spike your adrenaline, and stretch your arteries to hold all that pissed off blood. All this is not only taking years of your life, but also making your current situation more intense. You are actually forcing your mind to reinvision what sparked the initial fireworks. And staring at the display is just going to spark more.
Even ‘talking it out’ can have a detrimental effect. Imagine your car breaks down on the side of the road. A rightfully infuriating experience. You make the trek home, force your significant other to drive out to the suicided vehicle, and have him/her listen as you ***** about how it inconvenienced you, giving the dead auto several well deserved kicks to punctuate your tirade. You then repeat this process with several friends. It has thus been drug out. With each telling you have to relive your frustration. Until finally you are standing across the road, glaring at your traitor vehicle through the scope of a cocked rocket launcher. You will give it the crematory funeral the piece of :-* so justly deserves.
Instead, you should note the stop signs on the way home. And take a few breaths. Analyze the situation. Do not complain about it to peers. Do not vividly recant the tail over and over, with increasingly colorful language. Does it really deserved to be turned into an epic tragedy? A tale retold and relived and remaddened? The only person the information should be imparted to is surely a mechanic. Or the person who is paying for her (its a her because I like the thought of a sexy grease monkey).
Talk to someone who can help you analyze the situation and provide solutions. One who can help you fix it. If it is in fact fixable. Do not rant to a person who you only want to watch as you build a rage inferno, or worse, someone who is going to throw wood onto the fire. Because that is what venting actually is. Venting/fanning a bonfire.
Talk listen and heed a person or part of your brain that is brandishing a fire extinguisher of the brand “it really is NOT that big a deal”. Or at least an id that says “Dont build a fire there. Smoky the Bear will get you.”
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Funny post, I liked it.
I would also suggest trying to dance/exercise when one is upset, or, listen to soothing music, or have a nap. That always helps. I like snacking sometimes as well when I’m stressed. Bad habit to take up, no doubt, but I could use some extra weight so I’m not going to worry about it (yet).
Take up scuba diving.
I have tomorrow off and there is gold waiting to be found, so I’m going 🙂
Its a good way to escape this world, as it truly is going into another world underwater.
If my car suicided, I wouldn’t bother kicking it or bitching about it, I’d toss the engine block into my foundry and turn it into molten metal, then toss the molten metal all over some concrete and call it art.
@Lorax. Been done. Domo Arigato, Mr. Roboto: http://inhabitat.com/studio-re-creation-transforms-an-old-russian-car-into-a-powerful-man-machine-sculpture/
Just read the url to my link. I wish all links were that proud and previewistic of what you are going to see by clicking.
“What you are going to see by clicking”….there is a slutty dolphin joke in there…
I have to say i just loled at the post topic, but you do make a lot of sense in your post, better look for a solution (if possible) instead of just repeating things a million times and do nothing about them…
@Lorax: you could always use the molten metal as replacement of molten lava and turn yourself into an art piece, lol.
My preferred method of expressing my internal fury is writing explicit, raunchy SuperWhoLock fan fiction in which my enemies are on the receiving end of non-consensual sodomy.
@Emo Is the great Dr., the great Dective, or the great Hunky Brothers doing the sodomizing?
Maybe some synthesis is in order here – how about sodomizing your enemies with molten engine-blocks? 😮
Or some kind of joint sodomy/snorkling trip.
@Fortunear
It all depends on the significance of my rage and whom it is directed towards. Sometimes there is intermingling sodomy of all 4 characters also including those making a guest appearance.
Hey!
Yeah I’ve heard that before. If only there was anything to do but complain about it. Usually I’m complaining to myself anyway.
I’d say the vehicle has the right idea. You can’t fix unfixable.
logged in just to “call bullshit” on this post, obviously intended as victim-blaming, under the guise of contrasting “wisdom.”
“You are actually forcing your mind to…”
It’s tantamount to grabbing someone’s hand, slapping them with it, and saying “stop hitting yourself, stop hitting yourself!”
Or in an alternate context, let’s say it’s a person who was, through no fault of their own, struck and paralyzed by a drunk driver… and then telling them “stop being paralyzed, stop being paralyzed!” As if they’re “doing it to themselves.”
Shifting gears a bit:
“…or they will shatter the container as if it was flung against the wall.”
Maybe That’s THE POINT? Maybe “venting” occurs naturally, as a more-considerate option than snapping, flipping the fuck out, and violently inflicting your rage upon others, who may or may not have been involved in producing it.
Venting is all about burning that energy in a self-destructive, internalized way (seems counter-intuitive, i know…), before it becomes externalized and outwardly destructive to others. You may whine about “oh, their WORDS are hurting me /soo/ /much/…” but words don’t do anything the audience doesn’t allow them to do. If people are “hurt” by your venting: it is only them, doing it to themselves. 😉
But yeah, “venting” doesn’t really solve anything; it just gives you a chance to wear yourself out through words, before that energy gets channeled into destructive actions.