I can’t believe I am at this point. I cheated on my wife of 10 years, with a woman that I barely knew, and recently she found out about it. I have two great kids, but don’t feel I can be the example as a good man for anymore, as she told me..I destroyed my family, her trust, and replaces the love she had towards me with anger and hate. She says I have literally drained the life from her and wasted her life…I no longer want to be a burden for her, and the financial gain she will get from this is huge, over a half million..that’s enough for the house she always wanted and to start over..I just hope my kids will eventually forgive me for leaving them this way. I have everything set, and affairs in order. I think after this last workout when I get home that will be it. I guess I just wanted to say goodbye, I kissed my little loves on the head, told them daddy loves them, as she slammed the door…
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I don’t think you’d be giving your kids much of an example by taking your life away because of the consequences of a dumb mistake. A good man would stay alive and face the odds, specially if it was his fault, and bailing out goes completely against the image you want to project to your kids. Think about it, sure, your wife will get money, but she’ll also get lots of blame, both from your kids and herself. She’ll ask why she wasn’t more understanding, and your kids will likely blame her the same way. You’d be punish them all for a mistake you made.
I know it’s your choice, but money is worth lots less than a 10 year marriage, plus kids. Imho, stay a bit longer, face the odds, and see if you can live with your mistake, at least until it runs it’s course. Things might get better or worse, but at least you won’t die leaving so much pain behind, which is going to be even worse than the pain they got from the cheating. Again, your choice, but i just had to point those things out. Whatever you end up doing, i do hope you find peace.
Think about kids. If you really love them and you feel that you need to be punished, do some social works for community and help the poor. Engage in social activities and help someone. You did an awful thing (I have been recently through the same thing my boyfriend did to me) but it is not worth your death. You will destroy yourself and your family entirely. I know that because I am a suicide survivor… Think about it.
This is definitely not worth killing yourself over. People cheat all the time, this is nothing new, your kids will forgive you. It’d be a million times more upsetting to them if you ended your life over this and it sounds like things were going well for you aside from the affair.
I think the phrase “suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem” applies in this situation.
When we mess up in life no matter what we say we ultimately seek redemption. This isn’t the way for that you talk about wanting your kids to forgive you yet instead of redeeming yourself you choose to give up. We are humans, mistakes are inevitable the importance is to learn from them. Also I’m sure your wife is very much hurt and what you did was wrong but do keep in mind people tend to say hurtful things when they are in pain. Change be a better person and forgive yourself what better way to redeem yourself than to improve???