Today I took about 6 depression quizzes, the last time i took them was a couple of months ago and back then the results were moderate depression, now it’s major depression and those results scare me. I’ve never considered telling anybody about my suicidal thoughts before, but after seeing those results… well now i think i want to get help, I’m just not sure how to do that, it’s not like i can just walk up to my parents and tell them that i think i have depression. What do i do? How do i approach my parents with this subject? Or maybe it’s possible to find a therapist in my city or go to my doctor and talk to her without my parents finding out and then if she thinks this is serious she can tell my parents? Oh and talking to anybody in my school is not an option, I’m 14 by the way. Please give me some advise, how do i get help?
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Hi Kate,
The most important thing is that you find someone YOU trust, that YOU are comfortable talking to, and who YOU feel is having a good impact on your life.
A therapist is not just a therapist, it’s a bit like a shoe, it has to fit you.
Where I live, therapists are bound by an oath of confidentiality, so nothing leaves the room unless you want it to. I don’t know what it’s like at your age, but ask the therapist/whoever you talk to beforehand, maybe even get a written agreement if you don’t want your parents to know.
It’s wonderful that you’ve monitored how you’re feeling, and are seeking help. I wish you all the luck in the world.
If you have any further questions, don’t hesitate to ask!!!
Sorry, I can see I misunderstood your post.
I’d get your parents attention, and then try and describe to them calmly the situation, how you’re feeling, how long it’s been going on. Be persistent, make sure they get it, that they understand you’re serious.
Or, like you said, you could go to a therapist/counsellor, and they could then judge how serious it is and talk to your parents.
The most important thing is you get help, and that you insist on how you’re feeling, and that you want to feel better.
you sound like quite a mature 14 year old, and if you have a good relationship with your parents, then sitting them down and telling them you have been feeling depressed lately and explain why you think so, they will listen, or at least i would. But i dont know your parents.
You still young, dont let this go on too long, the sooner you sort this out the better. I was just removing this site from my favourates and i said i would have one last look at the top Story, and here I am, Maybe its fate 😉
An older brother or sister maybe, just make sure you tell someone, talking about with someone will make things alot clearer for you. its hard to sort it all out when its jumbled in your head.
Even if its just someone here, theres loads of nice people here who understand how you feel and will talk to you. Its more of a support group than a fourm.
I hope you find Happiness again soon Kate.
Peace
🙂
It depends on how ur parents are to determine whether to tell them or not. I would definitely go see a therapist though. I took those quizzes 2 years back where it only said I had depression….I then retook them a week ago to see that I have chronic and clincial depression. It is a scary thing cause I’m only 16. But I don’t need quizzes to tell me I’m depressed because I’ve already had 7 different doctors/ psychologists tell me. I would find someone you trust too to tell them whats going on. That and a therapist.
Hello Kate
I’m in the same position you are. I’m 14 and I am trying to figure out how to get the point across to my mom. I have a good relationship with my mom so I want to just sit her down and tell her but I don’t want to sound like I’m needy or wanting attention. I plan on talking to my school therapist and then discussing it with my mom. I hope this helped 🙂
Fierce Love<3
Kate – you hit on the perfect way – go see your regular doctor – tell him/her you are depressed and that you don’t know how to approach your parent so they will believe it is a serious issue – your doctor will know how best to get you in touch with a reputable therapist and it adds weight that your doctor agrees when it is brought to your parent’s attention … but save the real dark/suicidal talk for the therapist.
dr dawg
Right now I’m trying to find a therapist in my city, because I’m not sure if my parents will believe me if I just tell them how I’ve been feeling. See I’m good at laying and acting like everything’s okay but when it comes to how I’m actually feeling I’m not very good at expressing that, it usually comes out sounding like a lie. But finding a therapist isn’t so easy if you don’t have much money. Maybe I’ll actually try going to my regular doctor and telling her about everything. I just need to find someone would hear me out and then would talk to my parents for me.
Yeah I agree….find someone who will listen to you and help you. They don’t have to be a therapist, just someone you trust. Just be careful because they might leave you and that will hurt very much. Trust me…I know.