Sick,
I am constanly making mistakes to my boyfriend, I don’t want to but I keep doing them. I can barely live with myself after the mistakes I make, I don’t mean to fuck whats wrong with me. I don’t want too but I keep doing it he wants to leave me because of them all and I don’t want him too I don’t know why I cant put a stop to the mistakes! As simple as falling asleep on him, fuck. Whats wrong with me I don’t want to harm him I dont want him to leave and I have failed to fix my reoccurring mistakes so many times, what is wrong with me!?
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falling asleep is a “mistake”?!? … sounds more like he is trying to control and dominate you and then when you “disobey”, it’s all your “fault”. If that is what he considers a “mistake” … RUN!! … get away now – as far and as fast as possible.
race dawg
It’s different I love him to bits I would never leave him I dont want to ever, just I try to be a good girlfriend in general and keep failing I keep trying to fix it but keep failing. I dont want to fail.
People loved hitler too. Look … you don’t give any reference to go on other than “i fell asleep” … if he rest of these “mistakes” are similar … then it won’t matter how much you love or how hard you try … nothing will be good enough … and when/if you ever do reach “good enough”, he’ll raise the bar and demand more … if you can’t look at your BF and say … “hey – I was tired, get over it or hit the road” then it’s not about “you”, it’s about his ownership of “you”
but again … I ONLY have the one instance to go on so I reserve definitive assessment until if/when you decide to be more specific … but that’s how I see it now … seen it way too many times … man demands, makes girl feel like she is a failure and couldn’t get another person if she tried … makes her believe she is trash … then will use fear, physical, mental and sexual abuse at his whim and will … you become owned – a possession – no longer a being in his eyes
but what does an old fool like me know
old dawg
Race dawg this is a process that you, or anyone else can stop. Saddest thing is, it won’t change.
@Zeke … it’s just plain old “dawg” 😉
… and I’m not the one with the problem so I cannot stop it … but you are right that it CAN be stopped … but only the person with the issue can make that choice. Unfortunately and sadly I fear you are right that it won’t change. men like that are insecure cowards that need a daily asswhoopin til they “see the light”
shit-kicker dawg
Men, yeah he is like that with everything though fuck I have no idea how to make things better, I screw up all the time and want to make things better but it wont work fuck, thanks guys.
the first thing you CAN do for yourself is to come to the realization that it’s not YOU with the “problem” – it’s HIM. You are not “making mistakes … it’s him that can’t accept your actions … EVERYBODY sleeps – for him to be “angry” about that is for him to figure out “why” that angers him … and if he can’t accept the fact that you are part of “everyone” … then he can take a flying leap off a high cliff while fucking himself with a flaming spiked dildo.
they ARE NOT your “screw-ups” they are HIS inability to deal with reality
you cannot “fix” him … you can only “submit” – if you choose that, you will never be much better than a chair that he can sit on and never quite get comfortable … so I recommend again … RUN!
all the best – it’s NOT your fault
man dawg