while on this site iv noticed several times people saying “they just want sypmpathy” to another user as if thats a bad thing. wanting some sympathyisnt bad, sympathy is someone trying to understand what its like to be you or empathise where they have gone throught the same thing or something similar. the right ammount of sympathy is goos, sometimes you need someone to let everything out to and for them to just listen with the occassional symppathetic comment, not solutions, a solution isnt always needed right then. i dont think sympathys a bad thing, what about you?
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sometimes it is good to have sympathy either shown to you or you showing it to others… but there are times when sympathy doesn’t need to be shown… basically i agree with you
I would agree mostly. I think the word and connotations behind sympathy is all wrong. Sometimes having someone listen and take it all in and acknowledge the pain you are in then that is also needed sometimes. Empathy usually suggests that they have been through a similar hell. I do not consider myself special, but I do not know anyone in my life who has tried to commit suicide 5 times and have the demons that I seem to possess – so empathy is not going to work because only we who have been there can really understand it.
Sometimes sympathy is helpful, but usually always what people consider good advice or their solutions are not
Sympathy helps sometimes. When a person just listens it feels good in that someone is taking time to pay attenntion. Taking time to understand even if they don’t understand very well. Sometimes a solution just isn’t tailored to the situation and it makes you feel even more stuck in a hole.. That little bit of listening helps you atleast get a foothold.
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Empathy.
Empathy, the ability to really resonate with another’s feelings, is one of the most helpful responses we can offer to those in pain.
Peace.