excuse me for your mistake….

From the way you describe it, it seems she’s the primary cause of the problem.

However… as unfair as this may be, it’s possible that she has decided you are the one who says hurtful things, which cannot be taken back, no matter how many times you recant or apologize or show the words invalid through action.

It’s possible she’s scarred and vindictive.

One cannot unspeak the spoken unspeakable. You can be sorry, express remorse, and do all in your power to compensate… but it’s entirely possible that you have indeed broken her heart with words, as unfair as it may seem, despite her own participation and possible instigation of the verbal stings.

She may have started the fight, and maybe for stupid reasons, and maybe what you said was even true and deserved… but you forgiving her, and you apologizing, and you doing all you can possibly do… does not, will not, obligate her to forgive, will not enable her to forget, even if it was all because of what she made you do.

Or… “she’s just mad.” No one is required to play fair, and if you ever beat a woman at her own game… she’ll probably be mad. People who are mad, are often disinclined to play fair.

All you can really do is be patient and genuine, and… give her a chance to give you a chance. If she doesn’t, or won’t, or can’t… that’s on her, not you.

But women are people too, and sometimes people are irritated and tempted to assume the most likely (in their mind) possibility. If she understands “he’s being mean” more than she understands how phones work… if her understanding of how phones work is “he makes my phone work,” then if it stops working, you’ll be the first suspect, rather than the far more reasonable and logical possibility that it simply lost signal, which happens to almost every phone, sometimes.

Be very careful what you say to her, since it’s very likely she’s still hurting from previous words. She’s watching you very closely, due to the lessons learned through being hurt. If she starts saying hurtful things, do whatever you can to resist counter-strikes, even if you feel she deserves it. People with hurt feelings are notorious for being irrational and causing more problems based on past experiences.