I was friends with a girl that was suicidal, but said she loved me. The cause for suicidal thoughts were… the fact that I am also a girl and people in small towns don’t accept lesbians very well, especially her own family. And although I accepted her and cared a lot for her, I am straight.  She was teetering back and forth between wanting life and wanting death, and she cut herself because of the pain. I asked her a question that I thought could fix the problem at the time because I had so many answers, I asked her; Do you have any goals in life, and is there anything in this world that made her happy enough to stay, if there suddenly was no more pain. She just laughed, and then cried. she said her life was to screwed up to bother to think about it, and that she would rather end it here. But now I wonder if she was just afraid to fight and afraid to be happy, truly once again.
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She wasn’t afraid to love, so I’d rule out her being afraid to fight or be happy, two founding factors in determining whether we wish to love another or not. I will also add that you have my condolences for the loss of your friend. There exists a point of no return in each of our minds, it would appear that your friend far exceeded that point and her mind was firmly made.
live.for.me.please… Thats sounds like someone’s last words to you?
live.for.me.please ,
we all have moments of happiness and moments that are not, each individual has a threshold, what is worth to a person to caring on if 99% of there life is unhappy? no matter what you do, it’s not that they just want to die, they just can’t be happy no matter what they do or what you say or do for them, I’m like that myself, death does solve everything, once your dead your troubles are over you slip back into non existence, and that’s a place where you are truly at peace just like before you were born, I’m not saying everybody needs to kill themselves, but for some that is the answer and death is the answer for everyone sooner or later, that’s why we die in the first place, nature takes care of us. far as afraid to fight ,it’s only fun to fight if you enjoy the fight.
if she was afraid, it was probably that she was afraid to continue experiencing the same pains to which she was being involuntarily subjected, based on people’s reactions to who and how she was, which she could not reasonably expect to change… which is the “too messed up to bother thinking about it” part.
Most people will fight anything they think they can beat, even if it’s the hardest thing they’ve ever done. But most people also learn through hard knocks, to “pick your battles,” so that you’ll minimize the number of impossible fights, and the number of times you’ll be beaten down by life.
There probably was ‘something’ that would have made her happy… and she had probably seen it… but she couldn’t reach it, and couldn’t beat or bypass what kept it beyond her reach.
I’ve never met ANYONE who was “afraid to be happy.” If you ask me, that notion is utterly absurd. If anything, people are afraid to be temporarily happy based on lies… which inevitably leads to profound disappointment, embarrassment, humiliation, agony and despair. This is part of why some people (like myself) never want to believe anything that is false. Maybe it doesn’t bother other people so much? Idk…