I always asked my self this question (why do people change???) but I never found an answer for it. I found so many people changed in my life some are my friends and even my mom had changed these few 2 years maybe even I changed and I didn’t realized that. there are some positive changes but most people if they changed they change into the negative side . when I use to be a kid I use to come back from school and I find my mom baked for me a cake and I sit to drink my milk with the cake but now mom is always talking to her friends and chatting she is not sitting with us as usual , she is not baking for me the cake maybe I became 16 not 5 as I used to be but I still want to eat her cake. internet is separating friend and families apart.
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I’m definitely a hater of technology as much as I’m dependent on it. I’m also a big proponent for communication. People do change and it’s usually hard to see the good when the bad is getting you down but you’re mom won’t know what you want unless you tell her. Maybe one day you can make a cake and bring her a piece with some milk and she’d see how much you miss the old times.
I mean in part it sounds like you wanna be a part of her life and still know she cares. Things certainly don’t get simpler as we go along so the more you communicate the easier things will be. Just tell her “hey mom I remember those times you’d make me cake, it made life seem better. Could you make cake one of these days?” She might be more receptive than you think.
It’s also hard to tell folks things because we wish they’d already know. Sometimes when you talk to folks though you realize they didn’t change all that much.
Sending you cakeful energy.
thank you very much its really sweet from you ta advice me
I was thinking the same thing – Mom’s have a tough, (seemingly) thankless job so I think the idea of making a cake and milk for her and then sitting down and make a plan to have a special day/time where you both get together and bake and eat and enjoy each other again. And if you don’t know how to bake, ask her to teach you – show interest in learning what she knows so you can pass down the traditions to your future children.
Everyone changes – most of all you. You are growing into an adult and you are actually seeing the world and the people in it from a more mature perspective. Your mom is probably not changing as much as you think, it just seems so since you are no longer a small child. Mothers have a difficult time trying to adjust to all the changes their children go through and try to anticipate the needs and desires of their children as they transition from toddler to adolescent to teen to adult – help your mom to understand who YOU are now. I think you’ll find that you mom will be very happy to participate in simple, fun and wholesome activities like baking/cooking etc. especially if you express your interest in learning how and what she knows.
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thank you very much yaa maybe you’re right I will try what you told me
All I have are observations..
What I’ve seen is that most times when someone is asking the questions “why do people change?” Or “why can’t things be as they were?”, they are usually referring back to childhood. Everyone (seemingly) cherishes their childhood, even when things might have been rough..it seems I could ask anyone what is their fondest memories and they will respond “childhood”. Wether it be friends or family they grow up with, or video games they use to play.. the fondness of one’s own childhood reflects the need for security, and as things change there is more of a lack as well as a need for security. Familiarity… because as most things change we want security that some things will stay the same..as to not alienate and separate ourselves from that which comforts us most.
I cant relate with this.. I’ve never known security in anything. My life has been a constant change from the beginning to this very moment. There isn’t anything about me that has a substance of history or culture or background of any kind. I know nobody that I knew last year, or from my childhood or from any other chapter of my miserable life. I have no idea why my life is like this..I just know that I’m so use to it.. I have no desire to look back on a past that doesn’t exist
yaa you are right about saying when we say that people change we refer to the childhood and thank you