I’m 22 years old and have a year left in college…I don’t really have any close friends and had a tough break up recently. I cry a lot because I’m depressed and lonely I guess and have thoughts that I’m awful and unworthy all the time and a feeling that there’s nothing I can do to change it. I try to be passionate about my artwork but have begun to question whether that has any meaning or value whatsoever. I used to get enjoyment from that but for some reason I’ve been stuck thinking that it’s wrong to be passionate about something that doesn’t involve other people directly, and if I don’t have any relationships anyway then my whole life is empty and not worth expressing.
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Feeling helpless?
Yes!
A moment of love to you my friend 🙂 Something I like to do is to Google different interpretations of the word ‘helpless’ until something clicks and inspires me to get out of helplessness.
What is your interpretation of the word helpless may I ask?
Artworks and art in general is usually the product of the passion/imagination of the artist, put onto some physical form. I don’t know what makes you think that it’s wrong to be passionate about something that doesn’t involve other people, but keep in mind that when people experience your art they get to see and share your creation, so in a way it does involve other people, and maybe it can end up reaching more people than you imagined.
I’m really sorry about your break up (they’re never easy, i guess we all know that), but don’t doubt yourself because of that. Artists tend to use whatever emotion they are feeling for their art, so maybe you could use it as a way to put out all those feelings that are troubling you. If you only have one year left just give it your all, not much point in giving up now, you might regain that passion somewhere in the future (i’m guessing you will) or if not you can always use your studies as a way to study something else if you need it. I hope you feel better eventually, and don’t think you are unworthy… no one is, specially someone who is passionate about something.
I interpret from what you say that it might be time to ‘shelve’ your artwork side of you (meaning take a break from it and presume when that inspiration chord strikes you again) and ‘unshelve’ something that you enjoyed in the past (like playing cards or jump rope maybe o.O) if you cant look forward for inspiration them maybe try looking back. There must be something back there….
what type of art?
Thank you guys for your insightful and encouraging words, I really appreciate it. Mf, I like what you said about how art is connecting with people by sharing your work and I’d like to think eventually I could find connections with people that feel real and meaningful. Muskin, I think helpless is a permanent wall in my head that I can’t defeat because it’s a part of me. Even when I’d like to think I’m being hopeful it is always there to remind me that everything I do is pointless and futile and too late to change. I guess I am afraid not to constantly doubt myself and to criticize myself because I would feel guilty and wrong if I didn’t. Art is my major because I’ve always thought that it was what I wanted to do but I do like word games and reading…Maybe it would be a good idea to channel this stuff though in my next project (since it’s all I’ve got to work with anyway). Thank you guys a bunch for your time and responses…I can’t say how much it helps to have new perspectives and things to consider.
I feel you o nthis! im going through this right now!! just know that you can have another relationship . . .
Why would life be empty and not worth expressing just because you’re not in a relationship? You’re still human, you still have this universe of a mind, you still have creative potential. None of that is different when you’re single. In fact, in a relationship, it’s entirely possible you wouldn’t have the time necessary to devote to your own life and passions. Cooperative passion necessarily implies compromise, which in many cases also implies limiting the scope of your passion. Sometimes abandoning it entirely for some neutral vision that isn’t what either party really wants.