So, my only actaul friend that I have, is embarrassed to tell people that we hang out. I kind of picked up on this a few months ago when a few of her other friends didn’t like me so for a while she wouldn’t talk or hang out with me. Then she started messaging me to come over to my house to drink all the time, and that’s about it. Any time I offered her to come with me to the mall or movies, she’d tell me she’s busy. Eventually, I found out that she blew me off to hang out with people who strongly dislike me. I got over it quickly because I didn’t want to start anything with her over something stupid so I forgot about it. Well, now she’s deleted every picture she and I have taken together, she has my number under a different name on her phone, she won’t talk to me when she’s around other people who know her.
If she doesn’t want to talk to me, or she feels embarrassed by me and just wants to use me for alcohol, what the fuck is her point in talking to me? I can’t tell her anything tjat goes on with me cause she ignores me, but when it’s something going on with her, I have to listen or she’ll make me feel bad about it. You’re probably thinking, “just stop talking to her. Problem solved.” right?
I can’t do that, before elthis whole thing started, she was like my other half. She helped me with everything. We were inseparable. But now, everything is going downhill. I want to just drop her, but every time I try to, there’s this force pushing me back..
But freaking hell! Why?! Am I just a shitty person that everyone has decide to look down on?! Cause that’s what it feels like. I know no one probably cares or even gives a shit about this, and that’s fine. I just needed a place to let it out.
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Well it really does sound like she’s just using you.
Or maybe she’s just silly like that.
It’s probably the other group of friends she has that’s badly effecting her.
You’re not a shitty person, she’s just being and acting stupid.
I wouldn’t say stop talking to her or leave her all together, but you could try and stay away from her for a while or give her some of her own medicine (tell her you’re too busy when she wants you two to meet and all that) until she stops acting so weird towards you.
I’ve tried that and it didn’t go so well. It resulted to us going off on eachother and making the situation worse.
Well.. she’s not really acting like much of a friend if that’s the way she treats you.
I don’t know what else to tell you on how to make her change her behavior because that’s on her.
If you ask or argue with her about it she’ll just probably get mad and fight you.
She’s probably just trying too hard to get that other group of friends of hers to like her.
Don’t let it make you think it’s your fault she’s doing all this.
Thanks dude. I appreciate it
Try to avoid drinking with her, eliminate the reason you think she wants to be around you from the relationship. Also, you could just try being frank with her, and you could just tell her how you feel. Her embarrassment is blatantly obvious, but if you guys are having in depth, meaningful, conversations, perhaps she is worth keeping around. Some people have a weak ego, but if you can handle that part of her personality you might be able to maintain a relationship with someone that can eventually evolve into something more meaningful.
please dont drink with her any more sweetie liquor is a depressant and if you have depression it will make things worse but i know what your going through i know its hard but try and make some new friends… people that accept you im not sure if you have depression but if you do she may be contributing to it at the current moment you can do so much better im not saying get rid of her im saying find more people to hang out with and hang out with her less she doesnt seam like a good influence im not sure how old you are but im 17 and im figuring out maybe maybe people see you as some way because someone else told a fib about you to make them not want to be your friend if you wanna talk let me know