I’m okay with that. If I can make peace with that, why the hell can’t any of my family members stop bugging me about being single? I know I haven’t dated anyone since 2012, but judging how things went then, being alone isn’t so bad. It’s not that I haven’t gotten over the last girl I dated, I just don’t feel the need to have all of the drama I had last time. I’m going to die in a month, so why the fuck does it matter?
The only reason I’m ranting about this is that I am currently visiting some family and my dad couldn’t make it one meal without bringing up my marathon of being alone. No dad, I’m not going to take your advice, I’m not paying a hooker or taking emotional advantage of fat chicks.
I’m pretty sure my mental health would be much better if my family members would learn to leave me the hell alone.
22 comments
Actually there’s nothing wrong with being alone if you are ok with it, but some people just can’t conceive it and think that people that do so are “wrong” or in denial. The fact that parents often come from a different generation (when marrying and having kids was the final goal) doesn’t help either.
Most likely they think all your problems would be solved by having a girl in your life. In a way they surely just want to see you happy, but they just don’t know any better. Also, parents have this tendency to disregard whatever you tell them to be what you need, because they still see you as their child and “heck, we know what he needs”.
While i agree that having someone is nice it does comes with it’s perks, as you pointed out. Try not paying much attention to what they say. If you ever get with someone again, do it when you are ready, not because others tell you to. Other than that i can only say that i relate, because every time that my family gathers they make it a point to bring up my lack of a gf, children, etc. I just try to ignore it because like you, i had enough with the trainwreck that was my last relationship (several years ago).
It seems easy the way you say it but it’s almost impossible not to pay attention because even if this parents stopped, he’ll still be reminded of his last relationship every time he went out. Plus the way he tells it is that he wants to be in a relationship, but just doesn’t want the drama which got him hurt in the first place.
I never said it was easy, i just said it can (and should) be done. I still remember my failed relationships when people bring up the single/without kids thing (and it still hurts), but if people don’t stop talking about it up the only thing you can do is try to be oblivious to it or just walk away from them. Since he mentioned family i’m guessing that he can’t just walk away.
I don’t think i wrote that he wants to be alone for good either so i guess you kinda misunderstood it (or i worded it poorly). In any case i just commented out of good intention (and because i often go through a similar situation with my family), no harm intended. Thanks for pointing out the flaws on it tho 🙂
I don’t have any overwhelming desire to not be alone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s cool to have someone you can go to about anything and that actually goes to you for help as well, it’s just not worth the risk. I’m happier alone with my books, games, and TV than I’d be trying to make myself trust anyone else.
Thanks for the clarification 🙂
Walrus, it’s been a minute since I last commented on anything on here, but you’ve supported me through quite a bit and I want you to know I’ve got your back. I will happily return the baseball bat if you need it. I’m not in any position to be giving advice, but I make a damn good hit man. Rest easy tonight.
I wish i had something comforting to say, but my mind is on lockdown at the moment. I apologize.
It’s fine, the fact that you took the time to comment at all means quite a bit. As I’ve said before before in other depressing posts, I’m just used to people ignoring me, so the fat that anyone cares enough to say anything is a big deal.
I care. I care a lot. I’m just really bad at it. :/
You’re not bad at it, I’m just hard to cheer up. You do a better job at it than any of the people that know about my health, mental or otherwise.
I know a great stripper and a few good restaurants. Well… I the great stripper might be salt.. And the food might be cold.. But we can turn this night around.
Sold, although I don’t have any singles for Salt, I may need to pay in quarters and dimes.
Same. Wait why give the quarters to him when Walmart has claw machines?
Yeah, let’s just go try our luck at the claw machines. Dibs on the blue penguin if anyone manages to get it.
Fine. ._. But I get the lion.
I’ll win you two lions to make up for the penguin, deal?
YES. but one of them has to be purple.
Done.
*Quietly enters room with boom box*
*Sets down boom box, hits play*
*Michael Jackson’s Billie Jean starts playing*
*Begins to strip, one tube sock at a time*
Don’t make me finish the act. Oh I will dammit. If you don’t turn that frown upside down, walrus, I’ll break out my orthopedic tap dance shoes. And there will be no penguin prizes for anyone.
Ok for real though, when your father tells you at the dinner table that you the answer to life’s problems is to hire a prostitute and victimize poor unsuspecting obese women, you know you’ve hit comedy gold. I hope you’re writing all this shit down, this would make the funniest screenplay since Better Off Dead.
Dude, nobody (at least from people I know) even know about that movie. It’s a real shame, since the movie is one of the greatest movies of all time. Also, my speech class last fall thought I was destined for stand up comedy, so I think my strength might be in stand up rather than screenwriting.
Caught between two cultures, I understand. If I didn’t marry one, the other would get mad.
It really didn’t matter, both cultures didn’t care at all because I was considered the bad kid.
I tried to impress one side so much and got shut down .
It hurts less to be alone then heartbroken, but don’t take my advice..
Why the hell is it men would rather die alone and kill themselves than get over themselves and date someone overweight?!?
That’s not the issue, I’d rather be alone than trust anyone, regardless of size. And my dad wasn’t suggesting I date obese women, he was suggesting I take advantage of them and their insecurities in order to string them along so I could booty call them whenever I got bored. If that’s the same as dating in your book, then we have some very different opinions on what dating is.