I always meet the people I went to school with. I am always happy to see them suited up and happy. Of course we catch up on certain memories. They tell me about how they’re climbing the status ladder at their corporate jobs, their kids and all that. And then comes the ultimate question that I dread the most…………. ” WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH YOUR LIFE??”
Has any of you SP members been caught up in such a situation? Damn that question feels like shards of bomb shrapnel coming straight at you. Like what the fuck do you want me to say man?? Hahaha I am always tempted to reply,”Wtf! The world only rewarded me with Depression, a shitty life and a failed suicide attempt”. How do you duck this question? What techniques can one use to avoid it??
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I absolutely hate being asked that question.
I got so tired of it I started to lie.
All my really close friends know what
a fuck-up I am but in social situations with
new people, I freak out. It seems to be the
first thing people ask, “so, what do you do”???
I went through a phase of telling people, “I breath, eat, shit and piss”.
It’s a tough one…
I hear ya. “I breath, eat, shit and piss” << Lol that is a very good response…
Yeah i just avoid lying and saying something that they would like to hear
and they leave me alone
I usually start with “SUFFERING ON A DAILY BASIS” then laugh it off and tell them about how I study full-time with a full scholarship and work on weekends to have money to buy my smoke and alcohol.
They get happy and we change subjects.
Only those close to me get to know the fuck up i am and howthe world only rewarded me with depression.
btw, loved the way you wrote it.
”Wtf! The world only rewarded me with Depression, a shitty life and a failed suicide attempt”
bcz thats me, basically hahaha
My answer? “meeeeh…how about you?” and that’s it. It’s amazing how you can redirect conversations just by giving importance to the other person.
Lol
I know it sounds stupid, but it actually works. It has saved me from breaking down in public countless times.
I think I’d like to reflect a question back on them like Mf said. There isn’t much point in answering them. They will judge and judge and judge.
‘i have a great job, a stable income, i am married to a great man’ – wow, good on you!!!
fitting the mould, well it was an example. I don’t fit societys mould lol
Oh lol talk about fitting in the mould. Most ask these questions to benchmark their success. Or just to gauge their level of achievement by wanting to know how shitty your life is. I think they even get off as a result. Sometimes I tell them I am CEO of a large conglomerate hahaha. I use that as a scare tactic…
If you tell people you have no job they will look at you like crap and say stuff like you are lazy. Its ’embarassing’ to have no job in society. Yeah, i don’t want to be any TROPHY. Shiny trophy ‘I HAVE A GREAT JOB LOOK AT HOW FUCKING GOOD I AM!!!’
It’s funny because i do get your point. For many people the fact of having a great job is the goal, but i wonder if they ever start to think if they are really happy or just fitting the mold like you say. What should be a mean to an end becomes the destination itself, and even if there are people that do enjoy their job i don’t think that’s the majority. Most people that you say something like this will say that you are lazy, or a hippie or whatever, but it’s not that i’m opposed to it… it’s just that it doesn’t make me happy or mold my life like it seems to do with theirs.
People just love to fake the funk for appearances sake. I am compelled to believe that we depressed and suicidal people look at things beyond societal designations. We’ve learned to look beneath the surface
Most people don’t realise that they are wage slaves, and their life is being bought for a pittance.
I’ve been unemployed for some time and I don’t think I’ll get back in the game, hence, I’m here…
I quit my Job recently. Living off of my life savings now. Hopefully I’ll be dead by the time they’re depleted. I am just so tired of the rat race and I don’t see myself dusting my work suit off to rejoin the workforce. I am just too tired of conforming to so-called “normal life”.
I wish I had a life savings to quit my job.. Unfortunately my life’s income went from McDonald’s, to part time factory work, and now a fresh job with no benefits. xD
I wish someone would pay me to play videogames. I could do that forever.
Another I find hard to answer and its asked more regularly: “ooh what have you been up to lately?”. Or “did you get up to anything on the weekend?”
Oh yeah. And the whole “you gotta have goals” bullshit. I got goals alright! But it’s not the kind everyone approves of. I got a lot of mental problems, my brain don’t allow me to be goal oriented
Lol my goal is to make it through each shitty day I’m here.
Unfortunately, my mother has a lot of friends and they always ask me this question. I usually just say “hanging around” (I know it doesn’t make sense, I’m really bad at speaking. T__T) They usually pick up on how uncomfortable I am and just drop it.
I rarely get asked it these days, seeing as I’ve isolated myself, but I dread it coming up in the early stages of a relationship, or rather: my history coming up.
What I’m doing atm is very low status, but if I had capitalized on past chances/had a less screwed-up psyche, I could have been somewhere completely different in my life at this point.
What I regret the most is all the wasted opportunities for fun, excitement and happiness. They’re the ones I can never get back, and in the end it’s about me, not what others think of me, but my knowledge that I could have been/be happier had I only tried.