I have this major fear of losing people. i have lost a lot of people in my life, including basically every family member. i have a small group of close friends and im scared that one day i might lose them. they are all i have. we have graduated from high school and we are all doing our own things, some are in college and some are in the armed forces, we dont live near each other any more. we all live in different places because of college and the armed forces and i am terrified that i will lose them! i cant lose them! without my friends i would have no one, since i have no family, they are my family. i cant lose them!!! am i the only that feels this way? i wonder if they fear losing me….
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Well people grow apart sometimes. It doesn’t mean they stop caring though. That’s a very legitimate thing to be afraid of. But as long as you keep in touch things should be ok I think
At the moment my connection to my best friends are also falling apart. We all graduated and moved away, some for college some to do a work and travek holiday, of course u can stay in touch over the inernet etc. , but its just not the same everyone has something to do and many dont have time anymore. They were my best friends and ive knowm them for years we were such a funny and unique group and i had the time of my life with them. I still felt depressed around them but sometimes they cheered me up. Of course they sometimes noticed something but i didnt tell the truth about my feelings
So basically i dont have a good advice just wanted to let u know youre not alone.
I used to be afraid of losing my friends when my anxiety became severe. I couldn’t go out to meet them anymore. They were incredibly patient and when I met one of my old friends recently she seemed really pleased to see me too… but we all grew apart a while after we left school and weren’t seeing each other every day. I think the best thing to do is try to make time for the friends you value the most – even if you don’t speak as often for a while, send them a long email or Skype them every now and then. And if you can, make new friends too. Friendship circles change over time. Some friendships will last for years despite all the circumstances, but it’s helpful to have some friends close by as well. If your old friends can’t always be available, then you have other people to turn to when you need. But you can keep in touch with the old ones too. The nice thing about older friends is that they’re just like family; you can be apart for years and when you meet, however much you’ve changed, it’s like you’ve never been apart.