It seems many of us, men, here at SP struggle or have struggled with problems related to the opposite sex, messed up relationships, stalkig exes, or like me years of constant rejection, being friendzoned, women mistaking kindness for weakness and taking advantage of it and walking over us.
And you know what?
I’m 27 and i dont know why or how but about 3/4 years ago a sudden changed occurred …. i just stoped bothering with it at all, suddenly i dont care if women notice me or not, i walk by a gorgeous woman on the street with the same indiferrence that i walk by a light pole, i stoped persuing women, when i was still going to bars and partyes lately i did it with the sole purpose of haning out with my friends(when before it used to be also about trying to meet and flirt with women).
In social settings i used to be very worried with how i was percived by women and i was always trying to better my social skills with them, now……i don’t give a shit…
I think i’ve become what the internet calls MGTOW or a Herbivore Man
I do not know if it is a good or a bad thing……what i do know is taking that pressure, sorrow, anxiety and frustration over constant failure off my shoulders has somewhat made my life a little bit more bearable.
If that didn’t happened i have no doubts i would have already offed myself.
So my point with all this BS is, sometimes stop giving a shit about certain things helps making it better.
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I’m on the same page. I’m 28 and have become somewhat apathetic (it’d be a lie that I completely don’t care) towards finding a girlfriend. I was putting so much effort into trying and getting no results. Some of us just weren’t meant to find someone.
For the most part ive stoped caring compelitly although ill have to admit that every now and then there comes a day when i feel like i could use a woman’s touch
Very well put nextime1988. I agree too that I’ve had no interest in either sex for a few years now. I have to admit that the not caring thing can make girls more interested in you as the guys chasing are usually obvious. Heck who doesn’t like a little mystery?! And we are all human, I’m not entirely dead inside…just mostly haha
I get you completely, sort of going through the same change myself, or at least to some degree. It’s like you just get fedup with so many bad relationships and rejections and something just sort of goes off and you just don’t care. It’s not just about sex either, it’s like everyone is a person and that’s it. 33 over here, no idea when my attitude started shifting this much but now that i read this… yup, sort of makes sense. Thanks for sharing.
I’ve never given a shit about relationships and dating, which makes me look like a weirdo among people my age. 22 and I have never bothered at all, don’t think I ever will. I have enough shit to deal with in my life, thank you very much. I’m not interested in adding the drama that comes with dating. So, I completely get you. Only difference between us is that you’ve tried and given up. I just never tried to begin with and I’m not even planning to.
I’m in a similar place. I started noticing it around 3 years ago and since then each year I keep caring less and even those rare moments of weakness go away faster each time they come. Friends and family think it’s weird and don’t believe me, they think I’m just saying it, so it’s nice to find out it’s quite common.