Do you have abnormally bad luck? Do bad things always seem to happen to you? Do you feel cursed?
I do. I feel as if the universe is trying to screw me over, bc no matter what I do, no matter what I don’t do, no matter what choices I make, bad shit happens to me, and I can’t fucking escape it. I thought I could. But after so many decades, I’ve lost hope that “things will get better.”
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I have, but now I’ve read that that is what depression does to your brain: you start to focus on the negative, which means you miss opportunities for happiness, don’t look after yourself etc.
A good way to start fighting it is to express what you’re grateful for. Just the practise of looking for things to appreciate is beneficial.
I feel the same cursed since birth nothing seems to go right @muspel iv been meaning to write a gratitude list just ain’t got the energy to do it at the moment but on the other hand I’m not sure it will help any opinion if it help or not
I feel like it helps. And it’s simply because of the change of focus. But it’s not like you can just do it once and be cured. You have to do it regularly. It needn’t be a long list.
If interested, check out a book called “The Upward Spiral”
Yes, Generally speaking I do feel Cursed in comparison to most people. The biggest thing that cursed my life was that I grew up in an abusive home and therefore I had mental and emotional issues all through my childhood and that set my life off on the wrong track so to speak. But now I am trying to overcome it all and make something of my life and things are getting better.
I dont believe that once cursed always cursed. I believe you can pull out of the darkness and come into the light so to speak. Things can change with a little effort.
I don’t actually feel cursed, I mean not in the traditional way, it’s more like if even I am lucky, I just don’t always (to put a little of positive thinking in this answer) know how to take advantage of it, or somehow I find an excuse not to enjoy that luck. So my problem is not external, but internal. Ain’t related to luck but to costums and bad decisions.
Good point. I know that feeling. I’m afraid to/unable to actually attach myself to something good, because what if it get’s taken away or I screw it up or…?
It’s the leap of faith.
*gets
bah,
“Do you feel cursed?” YES! But i’d call it just bad luck, a lot of my bad luck is cause by the things i do, then there’s the bad luck that just happens on it’s own, but the thing is good luck is in the mix as well, i can cause good luck by the things i do and then there’s good luck that just happens on it’s own, sometimes you run on a bad luck streak! for a long time, but the thing about luck it can change and you could go on a good luck streak! 🙂 hey what goes up must come down, luck is a equal opportunity phenomena.
The wheel of fortune
I think about it a lot
I feel the same…. They tell you to think positive and that only losers quit. They’re quite wrong…. If you know your lifes been fucked up from the beginning all the way up to the present. Then the future will only be the same. When your cornered… You have no alternatives. We’re depressed because our lives really are messed up… Other people try to classify it as a mental illness when there nothing mentally wrong with us to begin with. Unlike them we won’t fake or act in order to fit in with society. And act like everything is great when it is really the opposite of that. I say they’re the weak ones, they’re the ones who truly need help. If you can lie all your life and even manage to make yourself believe in that lie then you seriously are messed up. I rather be depressed then forcibly try to be happy when there is nothing to be happy about.
Totally agree with this. My Psych would try to tell me it was my depression clouding my perception of things and that’s why I hated my life and wanted to die. I don’t know why they can not accept that my shit life is was made me depressed and even if they made a magic pill that cured my depression, my life would still be shit and I’d still want to die.
You can’t predict the future. None of us can.
It IS your mind that’s clouded. It’s not that your life doesn’t suck – I’m sure it does. But how you approach that suck is the only thing you can control.
And just focusing on how much life sucks is not really gonna help.
No offence, I know where you’re coming from.
Recently my Doctor commented about how I no longer seem depressed and he wants to believe it is because I have gone from injecting 1000mg of morphine a day to swallowing 20mg per day. He suggested that it was probably all the chemicals floating around in my brain that was making me depressed. I informed him that my 6 years of IV drug abuse was what saved me. If I had not spent 6 years in a state of indifference I would have killed myself back in 2009.
He was shocked the following fortnight when I walked into his office with about 30 cuts on each forearm and he asked if my depression was back. I told him I was not depressed but my life is still shit and I hate living and I had simply become so pissed off with my situation that I had to punish my body. He probably wants to believe that I am still depressed.
I had to explain to someone that I’m not suicidal because I’m depressed. I’ve been suicidal far longer than I’ve been depressed. Sometimes suicidal even when I’m not depressed, because of all the shit that goes on in my life. I hate life. Hence the reason I want to end it.
I do believe there are things to be happy about in life. But life is definitely not a fully happy experience all the time for all people.
Meds or pills do not help cure depression… They only intensify it. It’s like giving a kid an invisible ice cream cone. It just does not work… It only puts people in more debt which only furthers the depression. No doctor nor pills can cure depression… Because it is not an illness to begin with. It a state of mind produced by certain circumstances that go well beyond one’s control.
No matter how many ways you try to approach it. Somethings cannot be solved. Somethings do not contain answers and never will. Like if god exist or not for example.
I agree that our powers in life are limited. But there is no sensible reason to focus all your attention on that fact. To day in, day out obsess over what you cannot change. Better to accept and live with it.
But yeah, I know it sucks. It’s just that I have actually made some changes to my life, and it sure wasn’t easy, it isn’t easy. But those voluntary changes have resulted in rewards I had not anticipated. Other things have fallen into place.
If it wasn’t for bad luck I wouldn’t have any luck at all.