there is no “should be”; there is only “what is”

Looking back on my posts from six months ago to recent, I can’t fathom how I was able to make it through my life. I am extremely glad I did though, because now I am less fearful than before. I went out into the world and face a bunch of my fears, did a bunch of things that made me uncomfortable, and now I feel like there isn’t much I can’t handle. I didn’t understand that before: that all you have to do is handle life. Take a deep breath, do your best and know that even if we don’t get that job, there’s always other jobs. Even if we don’t get the “love of our lives”, there’s other people we can love.

I have become so in tune with the realities of life; it’s completely freeing. (I know my thoughts are all over the place right now, but I need to write as quickly as possible because I have to wake up at 5AM tomorrow! I know that if I don’t write it now, I won’t “get around to it.”

I think a lot of us are stuck in the mindset of how things “should be.” If I had to teach someone only one thing, I think I would teach them that there is no “should be.” There is only what is. If we see life as it is, then our fears (which are completely justifiable) diminish. Our fears can easily be soothed if we look at life as it is, and not as we are.

That has been difficult for me to wrestle with. Everyone (especially the media, television, society, etc) imposes upon us romantic nonsense or fearful nonsense that we accept at times when we’re too naive to think otherwise.

When we see reality, the way things are, as opposed to the way things “should be” according to us (and others), we gain freedom from manipulation and many fears.