God I was hoping I wouldn’t have to get this out, but it occupies my thoughts every single day so I have to do something about it. I suffer from social anxiety, which helps me on making friends (ha sarcasm) but I really want to meet new people, and I try SO hard.When I do try to strike up a conversation people just look at me weird and laugh! I’m even nice to people but they treat me like I’m garbage, or a mat to walk all over on.Why even try! I have a few friends, but they don’t know me. They don’t know what I like, what I do, or how I feel since they go on about their life and when I try to include myself they ignore the fact and not give a shit about me. Am I being selfish for wanting people to know of my existence?! I’ve just given up since I’m destined to die alone, I mean who’s really gonna miss a ugly,confused, teenager girl right? I’ll just make more room in this world for pretty popular girls if I do. Forgive me I’m being a loser like always.
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Never stop trying. If someone ignores you or doubts you, prove them wrong. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to fit in. Set yourself up for success. Whether it will be college, work, or the military, use this time to build a solid foundation.
Social anxiety can be frustrating to deal with. The anxiety can also be something that you will ultimately manage. It might be helpful to work with a professional so you can share your thoughts (which can be helpful) and get some assistance.
Being pretty and popular isn’t everything in life. There isn’t a person on this planet who isn’t struggling with one thing… or many things.
Welcome to this site. You’ll find a lot of people will listen and won’t judge. It’s quite a supportive community.
Thanks I guess I’ll try some more and hopefully not get rejected. Thank you for the advice and the welcome, I appreciate it.
sweetsleep, First off i’ve suffered from social anxiety myself, i wasn’t always that way but it happened, over the years due to nerve damage it made me feel different! like i was standing on a cliff looking down or something, it took a long time for me to realize that this is the new me and i had to accept it, So when i felt funny i just ignored it, and things got better. my case maybe different than your’s but the principle is the same, ignore social anxiety get out there and meet people, the more you do the faster it will go away. don’t forget meeting people is hard to do anyways people just don’t accept you that quickly so that’s normal, it takes time to enter a click! also far as looks go everyone is goofy looking in my book 🙂 it’s the inter beauty that radiates and brings them yo you! So start Radiating 🙂 Think negative you will get negative think positive you will get positive. it’s true.
yeah I was there but I met very good people. I started playing tabletop games and now I am playing force of will at my local store.
The thing is, you must go somewhere you can find equal minded people.
Try to find a local store and ask around, they surely are nice people
Welcome to SP from someone who has also struggled with social anxiety. It’s always hard to find where you ‘fit in’ in this society and on the surface it does seem to be the more confident who succeed with others. However quieter people can have just as much to say if only they get a chance, and their friendships can be strong as they can be more thoughtful to others. I believe you will make friends by continuing to show interest in other people’s lives and finding those who respect that and will then show an interest with yours. It really is just finding the right people to connect with and not giving up, if you have interests and join clubs with like minded individuals I believe your chances will of developing friendships will increase. So keep trying and you will find them.
What were your worst social experiences?
What were your best social experiences?
its just a prank bro
I feel the same way. Someday we’ll meet up on people who really appreciate us.