I still don’t quite believe it.
I have bpd and we’re known for remembering the bad memories more…. Maybe it is just me….
But I’ve been sitting here for days with my friends remembering things. What’s in the attached post isn’t even everything
It can’t be true…. Can it?
I’ve been reading through different things on narcissism, i still don’t believe it….
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i just want to die….. i dont want this to be part of my story….. the pages have been torn and destroyed enough…
theres at least 7 people that want me out of this relationship….
and theres nothing i can do… even if everyone was wrong fighting to be in the relationship will only reinforce the negative…
theres no excuse to be an asshole
youre not happy, thats all that matters
its not that bad……
Walk away. This guy isn’t doing you any good. A relationship is two sided. You should benefit from it too.
You are having trouble believing he is a narcissist and I can I understand that. When I found that my friend was a narcissist I had much trouble believing it. I did not want to believe it. It is an awful discovery. You will know you got played. You will know there is no future with that person. It is a dreadful discovery and realization. But there is a bit of good side to this awful, awful discovery.
Their behavior will be seen as going from seemingly random acts of meanness, outsized ego, etc. to: they are doing just as their disorder dictates.
A narcissist will just about tear your very soul out, given enough time and access to you and the worst part? They will make it seem you are entirely to blame for all the difficulties and all destructive behaviors they had.
I have mentioned my friend was a narcissist. As I was typing this response I once again realized, and with more clarity than I have ever known, that my mother was a narcissist. I have known it in my head for a couple of years. I now know it in my heart.
I am sorry for your pain. It is huge. Yet I am thankful you have shared your experience on here because it has helped me know what I grew up with in a way more profound than I have ever known. Thank you for sharing. Sorry again for what you went through and are going through.
Well said a1957. Took me years to realize there were sociopaths/narcissists in my family like one of my sisters and my father.
They appear to be superficially nice and caring but in reality, they only care about themselves. And no matter how much you help or contribute they take you for granted and undermine you behind your back.
I got my mother’s genes, she’s a very compassionate, kind person but ofc such people get taken advantage of if they’re not careful.
Once I truly understood how evil my sister and father really were, I was able to handle them a lot better. They can be destructive to your ego as well, best to avoid such b.astards.
I no longer talk to my sister and have no intention to ever again. Our last argument was pretty nasty and it was the final straw with me, I’m sure she felt the same way. The difference was that she knew she was playing me all along.
She didn’t have to-I cared for her as my sister and would’ve helped her anyways, but the fact that she treated me like trash once she got whatever she wanted made it clear that she didn’t feel the same way about me. Had I known she hated me years ago I would’ve cut her off right away.