It started when I was 11, the bullying. It was simple at first; called fat and ugly. It started to excel though, through out the year. I was a heavy set child, short and pudgy. But not obese. I told my mum, she said I just wanted attention. I let it keep happening for a couple months, then it got out of hand. I started being followed home by a couple of boys. They rode bikes usually, sometimes skateboards. I didn’t know what they wanted with me. A couple weeks after, a brick broke my window in the middle of the night. There was a note attached on it. it read “Kill yourself, you fat pig.” I still have the note. it was terrifying, but my mum couldn’t afford to send me to a private school. I continued to go to that school. fast forward about a year, 12 years old now. I was still pudgy and made fun of. I started having suicidal thoughts. I wanted to dull them. I started cutting my legs and my wrist. At one point I contemplated slitting my throat. I stopped eating. I wouldn’t eat for days at a time, only drinking small amounts of water. I lost the weight. For a while, I wasn’t made fun of. But all good things come to an end. Boys started saying I wasn’t pretty enough, or skinny enough.
Fast forward another year, I’m 13 now. It’s the beginning of my 8th grade year. I have no friends, my family thinks I’m joking, and i’m at this point, suicidal. A new boy comes. He’s just like me. Scared, lonely, and picked on. We immediately become friends. We stay friends. He helps me with my situation, I help with his. I’m becoming happier, having him around. A couple moths after this, my brother comes home. He had been ignoring our family for 3 years at that point, and I had given up on ever seeing him again. He came to my house one day, looking for my dad. He had a friend with him. Upon me saying I was the only one home, and inviting them in to wait, I noticed something. The look on their face wasn’t quite normal; a bit crazed and drunken, to be honest. As soon as I shut the door, they took me to my bedroom. My brother stripped me and looked at my naked, 13 year old body. He told his friend to do what he wished; upon handing my brother his money, he proceeded to rape me. I was being prostituted by my own brother. fast forward 2 months. I tell my best friend, He’s there for me, no matter what I do wrong. I’m starting to fall in love. I was still bullied; and called fat and ugly, and stoned. But I didn’t let this get to me. I finally got up the courage to tell my mum about my brother. She didn’t believe me. That or she didn’t care. I didn’t know.
I become suicidal again, and try to commit suicide that night. I try an overdose, I had to go to the hospital to have my stomach pumped. My mum is mad more than worried. She starts to abuse me, physically. I tell my father, but he’s already become a drunken mess upon finding out what I had done. Fast forward about 2 years. I’m now 15. This is my current age, and my current situation. About 3 months ago, my brother showed up at the door again; with the same friend. He payed my brother and the friend did what he wanted. I was terrified. My mum still abuses me. I don’t think I should tell her.
The worst part about it is, I no longer have anybody. You’re probably thinking, “What about the best friend, what happened to him?” Well he committed suicide three days ago. I’m not going to go into why or how he did it. It’s to painful to talk about. I don’t want to cry, and I won’t. I know if I do, I won’t stop. The self inflicted injury is getting worse. Cutting my wrist, ankles, legs, anywhere I can find with a vein. My fore arms, and even my neck now. I’m starting to drink and take drugs again. I just want to die. I don’t think life is worth it anymore. I have nothing… nobody to live for. I loved him and only him. I haven’t attempted suicide since the death. But the time for me to go is coming near. I was never good enough for him or anybody else anyways. My own mother didn’t love me. I don’t have anybody. I’m not sure what to do anymore. It’s gotten to the point where I’m completely numb. I have no emotion anymore. This could be goodbye, we won’t know for sure until morning.
11 comments
I’m so sorry that happened. Any loss is hard but especially when your foundation crumbles beneath you. I don’t have any words to make it better but there are people here.
Everyone on this site is willing to help and listen. I’m so sorry for your loss. There are no words to sooth your pain, you have to do that yourself. People can help but you have to be the one to move on. Its ok to feel numb that just means you cared but don’t end your life. It would be like all of your best friends work to heal you was for not. Live your life when he couldn’t. You don’t know that you weren’t good enough. You were probably what kept him from doing it sooner like he did for you. I hope you decide to live.
You and I ran across briefly on Omegle. There you shared this link at my request.
I’m not very good with words sometimes, so hopefully things come across right here. I mean only the best.
My words might not help you much, but just know that I can sympathize. My life may not have been quite that bad, but I do share a little bit in common.
From the way you wrote this, it’s obvious that you have a good head on your shoulders. That counts for something in this world. Life might be hard sometimes, but there’s always something good around the corner. It’s just a matter of surviving long enough to find it. Try to remain optimistic. Don’t stop trying to find happiness, as it’s always in reach.
I’m not just saying that, either. I’ve lived this life. It may be hard to do in practice, but more often than not it succeeds. It’s just a matter of trying. I’m saying this from experience.
More importantly, try to find someone who can help. Your family is trash. There’s many support groups and organizations out there that can help you more than you realize. You just need to reach out to them.
Be strong. I’m sure it hurts now, but things will get better. I’m sure of it. I mean that.
I appreciate all of you very much. The encouraging comments really do mean a lot. Thank all of you for the kind words. Haven’t had to much of that lately.
That’s because you haven’t been around the right people π
This is just too horrible for words.
You have to put the blame on the people who own it – NOT you. First thing, please burn the note that says ‘kill yourself, you fat pig’. Keeping this letter is your way of self torture.
I’m going to try to explain some things that hopefully will help you to understand why you can’t keep blaming yourself.
1. Does your brother have some kind of drug abuse problems that motivated him to prostitute you out? NOT YOUR FAULT.
2. Your brother’s friend who raped you – he is pathetic and can’t get a woman without paying AND forcing her. NOT YOUR FAULT.
3. Your mother probably gets angry because she isn’t capable of recognising your pain. She might also feel partly responsible, so instead of addressing the issue, she takes the cowards way and gets angry instead. NOT YOUR FAULT.
4. The bullying you went through was because those people are weak and pathetic and need to make others feel worse so they can feel tough. This is dispicable and NOT YOUR FAULT.
5. Your friend killed himself, and I am so sorry. But he guided his own hand, and this is also NOT YOUR FAULT.
All of these things happened because you are surrounded by people who don’t know how to deal with their lives so they take it out on you. There’s no need to keep cutting yourself because theres no need to punish yourself for things that are NOT your doing.
Please, please talk to someone about your mother’s and brother’s abuse. I am worried that you are not safe in that house. You have already suffered too much for no reason.
π
i wish things get allright … I will be with you … I may not even be close to knowing the pain in your heart …. but …. Tc … thats all i can afford to say …
im so sorry π life must be hard and im sorry about your friend ….. i would be devistated if that happend to me. im 15 too and i use to self harm on my arm and i have attempted suicide once in 4th term year 8. i could not live life if a friend commited… im sorry i feel for you. i know what your feeling, i tried overdose too.
I feel quite alone too in school because i recently just started year 9 at a new school and finding it a hard time here, kids bully me for no reasons…. i know how you feel
I wish I could switch schools, start over.
But I can’t:/
Sometimes you just have to endure for a time then start over.