Are you worth it?

I have loved and lost several people–it’s just the way of the world. Every relationship fails until one doesn’t. I know it hurts like hell, but it won’t hurt forever. I always found that meeting someone new really, really helped.

There’s no need to consider the failure of a relationship to mean that there was no value in it. Or no value in you. Your capacity to love may cause you a lot of pain now, but it will be a gift in the future, to yourself and the person/people you’ll love.

I beg you to wait a while, because the pain can fade and usually does. When someone I really loved for a long time dumped me, I was devastated for a few months. But I realized (after a while) that someone who didn’t want to be with me was ultimately not right for me, and so there was really no point in begging or pining–I could never be happy with them. After a few months, I met the person I’ve been with for 8 years now.

Who knows how it would affect the person you love–depends on her mental constitution. Remember that a suicide can set off a chain of suicides–your family, or your friends, or the girl. Maybe even someone else in your town that you don’t know–when the taboo becomes less taboo, you really never know what people will do. Of course, it can be selfish when people who love you want you to stick around for their sake–say, when one has a terminal illness, intractable pain, or years of depression that don’t respond to any treatment. Like mimsicle above, I think that this is not one of those situations–this is very likely to be a temporary problem