There was a time years ago when I was so depressed, I cried myself to sleep every night but everyday, I smiled. I was a clown who couldn’t wash off her make-up. I didnt really know myself, a girl I was “in love” with broke my heart, lied to me and led me on. And yes, it sent me further into depression. I did some drugs, pills. I drank some, vodka. But really, what depressed me the most is everyone thought I was fine and looking back now, I know thats what really bothered me. My family thought I was fine, hell, everyone thought I was fine. I cut myself, a good few times. I still remember the relief. I have the scars today to prove it. I dont really remember what happened to wake me up, to make my life meaningful again. I’ll be honest, I dont remember having a giant moment of clarity. I just know I overcame. I prevailed. Today, I am not the happiest girl in the world, I am alot happier than I used to be;I dont cut. I wont go back to that. Things happen to me and I cry and every once in a while the thought will cross my mind like a long forgotten sin, but I refuse, If you’re struggling now, I understand how you feel. But also, I know, if you let yourself be happy you will be. Spend some time learning yourself, learning to love yourself…I know, I know, it sounds lame, but it works.
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Hello MusicMatters,
Are you new to SP? If so you are welcome….we need all the stories of hope we can take here…especially the younger ones. A couple of things resonated with me…the first is that the “breakup” was not the impetus for the depression…you say the depression got worse after that…so I am sure that the depression probably played an insidious role in the breakup. And then you tried to escape your feelings with alcohol, self-mutilation etc.
The second thing…getting “better” is a gradual thing as you say. There isn’t one moment when you can say…that is when I got depressed…nor is there a definitive moment when you felt “happiness” again. Some of us go in and out of this cycle for well lifetimes. But everytime…you learn something about yourself…you learn a new coping skill…you overcome a fear etc…and you move forward.
Like anything…life and healing are a process…not a moment. Glad you are feeling better…and know that with work…it will continue to get better…and you’ll handle stress and pain in new ways…until you get through to the other side again.
Just keep going eh? You may inspire others. Nice
Peace
Amakua
Getting “better” doesnt happen over night. Its not instantaneous, it slowly happens, we just all have to stick around long enough for it to happen.