Im so fat

Unfortunately for you you’re a female growing up in this society that makes all this stuff more important than it really is. Your weight does not matter. You have nothing to feel bad about. First of all – you are not fat. But telling you that just reinforces the idea that any of this really matters. That’s not the point. You could be 300 lbs and it has no effect on what type of person you are. I won’t lie, of course the way your body looks affects how people notice you, but beyond first impressions, you don’t want to have friends and people in your life who like you just for how you look. If you live a shallow life like that you’re going to attract shallow people who don’t like you for who you really are.

But even us trying to tell you that you look fine doesn’t matter, the point is the only opinion that should really matter is yours. If you are unhappy, you have the right to feel that way. So change if you want to. You have the power to. Let me tell you trying to throw up your food or turning to anorexia like so many girls try to do is not how to look good.

There is so much information out there about how to eat right. If you want to be thinner, just stay away from the processed garbage that comes in a can or a box. Eat the food that the world provided for us. Don’t drink soda and eat a bunch of candy like most kids your age are probably doing. Yes it might seem unfair that a lot of people can eat that stuff and not gain weight, but you just have to accept your body for what it is. If your body is sensitive to the type of food that you eat, then you just need a little bit of discipline to control it.

You’re starting to figure out that the way girls try to lose weight does not work. You said yourself, you try to not eat, and then when you finally give in, you just feel bigger than you did in the first place. That’s because your body is like a burning fire and when you don’t eat, your metabolism slows down, and then you eat again, and your body is even less capable of using the calories or burning them, so it stores more fat.

Don’t avoid food. Don’t starve. Don’t throw up. Just eat the right stuff. The “model” look is not sexy. You don’t need to look like a skeleton. Your body should have weight on it. Girls who eat right and exercise and play team sports look good. Not starving models.

Just take care of yourself. Stay away from sugar and too many carbs. Every time you eat something just ask yourself what nutrients are in it and if it is good for you. And if you don’t know the answer to that, then start researching food and figure it out. It’s fun to learn about.

I still don’t think you really need to change anything. But only if it really bothers you then I encourage you to learn about it because you should feel happy about yourself. Start making small changes and I promise it won’t take long to start seeing a different number on the scale. And don’t force yourself to be perfect. Start out with trying to eat healthier 80% of the time and still allow yourself to eat the foods and snacks that you like.