Seriously you should need to be at least 17 years old to post on this site. Â It’s really getting annoying.
“Bobby doesn’t like me. Â I ‘m going to kill myself.”
” I’m going to go OD on birth control pills.”
” I’m going to go wash down a bottle of Tylenol PM with some vodka I stole from my parents.”
“I’m going to go drink 20 Red Bulls and I hope I die”
Give me a break. You’re crowding the boards with the most asinine posts. Â If you’re just trying to get attention this is definitely the wrong place. Â Please just go away already. Â There are people that are truly here for help and I’m tired or reading more useless posts than genuine ones.
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I’m going to kill myself because adults are stupid and I never want to be one.
Yeah I’ve thought many times we need separate sites with an age cutoff at 18 or 21. Not to be rude to the younger folk, just that problems and situations really differ with age. And it’s kinda strange for all different age groups to be communicating with each other. I’ve wondered how hard it really is to make a simple wordpress website like this. We just need a duplicate of this page with different age limits on each one.
@bluemonday – Yeah that would be a really good idea.
I know my post didn’t apply to everyone but I was just trying to get my point across. Maybe it will make people think about what they are actually saying. Go back and reread it. Does it truly make sense? I didn’t want people to be turned off because of all the teenagers and their high school angst.
I hear ya. I would probably use a different site myself if this one wasn’t so easy to use. I’m not even here for advice; I don’t post threads asking for it. Having BPD and chronic suicidal ideation, death is simply what I know. In some ways it entertains me. I hope to find a partner here some day though, and I’d say that’s my number one goal.
Still, I also like to comfort people, and when I’m not in a foul mood I can be pretty helpful. I find helping people to be entertaining too. If I can save a kid from doing something stupid like trying to OD on Red Bull, that was at least a decent usage of my time.
@lorax – Well if that’s truly the reason you want to end your life then I really don’t know what to tell you other than I’m sorry.
I think PureHatred makes a good point. Why not have two similar sites for different age groups. Sometimes the posts read like journal entries. Please use a journal if you don’t already and post here the types of things that you’d really like feedback on or that might have more universal appeal (vs. so and so didn’t call me back so I cut myself).
@letmesleep – I guess I’m not as sympathetic to everyone as some other people are.
@catchthebus – you put it more eloquently than I did. I wasn’t trying to dismiss other people’s pain but I guess everything in life is quantified and if Billy didn’t smile at you in lunch and you want to die then I just roll my eyes but if you lost a wife or a husband or were abused or bullied then I can relate to you better and want to reach out and help you if I can.
Let me just say this. Im 14 and severly depressed. I want help. But theres too much shit being posted that nobody realizes who really needs help.
Good point, Xx!
Thanks
Everyone has the right to post here regardless of age. Depression can affect anyone at any age. I agree that people should not post here if they are just looking for attention, because it wastes everyone’s time. What really surprised me about this site is that there are so many teenagers who are suffering.
The majority of them I don’t take seriously though. If you never really dated a person then how do you love them? You can call me an asshole or a pessimist or cynical. All of the above probably apply, however it doesn’t make what I’m saying any less true. I see it no more than seeking attention rather than a solution to the problem.
to have two separate sites would be detrimental to the point of this one site … everyone of all different ages, stations and locations in life have different and unique knowledge and experience … to separate a certain demographic form this site is to remove a very important segment of the skill and knowledge base
to remove younger folks takes the opinions, perspectives and experiences of a younger generation away from parents, grandparents etc.
the opposite is true to remove access to the knowledge and experiences of older folks from the younger ones who are trying to find their way in life.
So while wading through posts that you may find silly, absurd or trivial – they are very important and life changing to others – feel free to ignore them or otherwise not to comment – to be negative or condescending can have an amplifying effect on someone who is already suffering
tolerant dawg
That’s true Dawg. The teenagers on this site can benefit from the wisdom of us older folk.
I understand the need to seek someone to talk to but I don’t find it necessary to publish 7 posts in the span of 10 minutes telling me that you’re going to end your life because mom didn’t buy you Pop Tarts or because Billy thinks you have a fat ass. If you need to talk to someone wouldn’t one post be sufficient?
I guess it can be considered as condescending but if you’ve been around long enough as I have then you know that the amount of teenagers posting on this site has pretty much quadrupled in the past month and the number of posts they are publishing each day is getting old.
That’s why I said it was a good idea to have some sort of separation. I’m sorry but I don’t really care if Billy thinks you have a fat ass. If you think you have a fat ass then go to the gym. Don’t cut yourself because of it.
Well, that’s true. Cutting one’s self won’t reduce the size of one’s ass, lol.
If it helps, I’m an adult. Chronologically, at least.
Hi, I’m 16 years old. While some people post to get attention I do however think it’s not completely right to say that this is because of being a teenager and high school depresses us. And I don’t know about others but when I say I’m going to die, I truly mean it. Because of this I have attempted many times. In fact the reason I found this site is because I was researching on a type of death and came across a topic here.
Anyway the main reason I want to die is because I am abused at home by my dad and I have to cut to cope. I have tried literally everything to get away, I’ve tried to run away before and even had a social worker round but dropped the case. Whatever happens now this will likely mark me for life. I have no other way out. Please understand.
Sorry if posting up my reason was pointless, but it just shows that we all have our reasons. And besides, suicidal feelings usually begin at a point where you think it and can’t control it and that’s when you start to ‘attention seek’. I got past this stage some years ago now. It’s not very common that someone will go straight from being normal to being so suicidal that they kill themselves immediately after; in fact it’s unheard of. Just sharing my thoughts here on the matter anyway.
Also I know what love is like- sadly my case was unrequited. He was my best friend. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but he didn’t.
Thanks for listening. Even if I am in disagreement here, you are all so kind. 🙂
Not having pop tarts is an absolute valid reason for early termination – whether you like it or not … seriously – while i agree that there’s tons of silliness posted – i’m a bit surprised you take it as a personal slight as if they’re going out of their way just to irk you – (non-existent) god forbid
But if you absolutely cannot refrain yourself from reading the useless drivel posts – perhaps maybe you might consider reporting the most egregious violators of the intellectually bankrupt, redundant and non entertaining posts.
hall monitor appointment committee dawg
@FakeImportance – I wasn’t trying to trivialize everyone. That wasn’t my intention. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. If the abuse was substantiated I believe you could seek a court to be emancipated by the state and then you would have the freedom to live with whomever you chose. I don’t know if that was a route you wished to travel.
No I think people should be of any age that’s what this site is here for. It’s a good venting place so people get more time to think so some of them might not kill themselves. I agree there’s a lot of teens who have no idea! But still this site is for everyone to vent… That’s my take on it.
I understand what you’re saying but if you post about trying to overdose on BC pills how can you really be taken seriously? I don’t see that as venting. I just see that as someone who’s not getting enough attention at home which is not exactly the purpose of this site IMO.
In reply to half of the commentors, there’s a word called “ignore”? How about ignoriing posts you don’t like. Some people look for attention, some don’t. Some teens are genuinely suffering, some are not and just want to waste a blog on shit. I don’t believe in separating age groups since all of them have some amount of suffering to be coming here. I couldn’t care less about Bob Jones secretly stealing beer and making his best friend or significant other expode into suicidal thougghts either. But I do about the teens who do have a real life drama to write about, something reasonable to want to kill yourself over.
@Pure – and while i completely agree with your statement – that doesn’t warrant a solution of separation – i’ve been around this site for a good long while – and there are all types of folks who visit this site – young, old, smart, dumb, serious, pranksters, helpers and harmers, good and bad, nice and mean … one thing i’ve learned is – not everything is as it seems on it’s face around here – but by making blanket generalizations, we create unintended misunderstandings like with how FakeImportance interpreted this thread – a young person with ample and real reasons and questions to be asking for guidance here and now somewhat apprehensive about whether they’ll be taken seriously or ridiculed
patient dawg
P.S. in RE: the very first comment on this post: I’m like 28 years old, so don’t get the wrong idea. Okay, carry on with the very serious adult discussion, I’ll be playing in my sandbox. Yay sand!
@Dawg – that is true and makes a lot of sense. I will keep that in mind next time. I don’t know if removing this post at this point in time would really make a difference.
@lorax – I am going to eat 3 rolls of Mentos and chug a 2 liter of Diet Coke. Goodbye world…
@PureHatred: NOW we’re talkin’. Make sure to videotape that. I don’t think it’ll actually work as a suicide method, but might make for excellent ratings on youtube.
Oh Stfu. Does Age Really Matter In This Situation? We’re Talking About Our Shitty Life’s, Not Fucking And Having Sex With Random Guys. This Is Not A Porn Site Therefore All Ages Should Be Welcome! Leave Us Be.
What Is With Capitalizing Each Letter Of Every Subsequent Word? At LeAsT YoU’rE nOt TyPiNg LiKe tHiS.
Who was even talking about porn and fucking? I was just saying I don’t think a lot of the people’s lives on here are really that shitty.
Do You Have A Problem? Well Does It Look Like I Care? You’re A Dumb Fuck For Even Posting This. Some Young People On Here Can Find This Offensive. Why Should This Be For Grown Ups Only? We Have Problems To. We Have Needs. We Want To Get Help And Opinions That Actually Mean Something To Us. People Like You Piss Me Off! How About You Leave.And You Weren’t Talking About Sex, I Was Just Using It Out Of Curiosity In Which You Think This Site Should Just Be For Grown Ups. Ha, Your Awful. Oh Really, And How Would You Know? Are You There When They’re Holding That Razor? When They’re Crying? When People Are Making Fun Of Them? Stop Thinking You Know Everything Because In Reality You Don’t Know Shit About Any Of Us!!
Suffering is a matter of perspective. Suffering is not something that can be measured rationally. Pain is pain – it’s emotional, in which case it can be so incredibly intense that it’s overwhelming (even for people in situations that might seem laughable to outside observers), or it can be physical, but in both situations it’s exactly the same regardless of who’s experiencing it. If someone ends up on a suicide side, I highly doubt their lives are peachy-keen and they’re happy frolicking in the daisies, then suddenly they stub their toe and post about it here.
Smh. You Don’t Know Anything.
Stop attacking each other!!!
This is a place to be safe, share what we can’t tell other people.
Stop with this stupid fight, what’s the point? Make everyone more upset?
This is not a place to make damage to others, and that’s all that I see coming out of this conversation.
I removed my previous comment. I didn’t start it but I sure will finish anything. I wasn’t trying to upset anyone. The whole intention of this post was to simply state that I missed seeing posts from people with problems that I actually thought warranted posting about. I guess it might have seemed insensitive but I was just trying to prove a point and see if there was a way to have an adult section or something on this site. It was just my opinion and was seeing what other people thought about it.
Solution-
Everyone who agrees with this post… leave and start your own website with an age limit. See how hard it is and how many people actually visit it.
People who disagree… Ignore this and don’t waste your time arguing with these guys. Stay here and post where you won’t get judged and as many people as possible will see your post, giving you the best chance at help.
Argument over.
Last thought… maybe SP will make an age filter, so if you really have to you can restict your searches. Comments stay unrestricted though, this would just be for finding what you wanted.
I think everyone should be allowed to post. There are many posts on here I don’t read… unless I’ve communicated with the poster previously, something has to grab my attention to make me read it. SP is nice in that it truncates things so you don’t even have to scroll much to get past a post you don’t care to read. Now if I could just get it to show like 50 entries on a page…
And I do think that if someone says “Keith doesn’t like me so I’m going to kill myself”, they deserve to be taken seriously. If they’re just being an attention whore… well, it doesn’t hurt to give them a little attention, does it? (for anyone who feels motivated to do so) But it’s just as likely that deeper issues are causing their distress.
I’m 38, and there are plenty of people in my life who don’t take my pain seriously and think I have “nothing to be depressed about.” I can’t tell them about suicidal feelings for fear they’d either laugh or get angry. So it’s not necessarily just an age thing, either :\
Apart from people who want to have a real a discussion about it.
I couldn’t agree more.
Unfortunetly i agree. I dont like reading about how many cuts i’ve done today or that im going to die drinking 10l of water in a row, so i just pass by and ignore it. If theres something that appeals to me or i can recognise as my own pain i will read and maybe comment.
I understand your point though Pure, its annoying to see these type of posts, but theyre there theres nothing we can do. Usually in the first few words i already know its useless to keep reading or if it has cutting in title. It cant be stopped! Its just a shame some of these kids dont even want to give it a try, but what can you do? youre not even close by
sorry – but i strongly DISAGREE with the original poster.
Ya – there is OVER drama among many people here (including myself at times).
BUT, if someone is reaching out for help. I dont ask to see a birth certificate first. I just help. Maybe I am different than most. IDK. But I thought you help a drowning person no matter what. Not based on age or race or whatever. Just help.
I get how some (again, including me) may annoy some people. Sorry if I added to your annoyance level. But ALL should be welcomed. At least in my opinion.
Remember these youngsters are for the most part immature why? Because they are so…………… young! But have had horrific lives “abuse” and they have feelings! I don’t think that many really want to die and are looking for us to help them. As adults its are responsibility not to act like children and remember they are. Boy they do come up with some doozeys though!!! Ha-ha 🙂
Again… Just saying.. I want to die. Not everyone should be taken seriously but this site is for anyone who feels this way.
those that could help and are closer to them are not helping or caring at all… its sad really. but i agree this site is for all! whit those posts or not, but do understand Pures point of view.
Wow! This was a very emotional exchange but it seems like an important one. I was a suicidal teenager, so of course I understand the need for the site. But when I was a teenager, there did not exist multiple avenues for telling people your personal problems. (Of course what’s often lacking is access to good professionals to listen).
In our current culture, from “reality” and dysfunctional family exploitation shows to tweeting, there has become a blurring of what’s private and what’s public; what’s weighty and what’s trivial; what’s immediately important to convey and what can wait. When news of a bombing can follow a tweet about a favorite song, it can be awfully hard to know what to pay attention to and what matters.
Maybe I was wrong about the need for two sites. I learn from teenagers too, like the ones who have lost a parent to suicide.
Back to my earlier thought: writing in a journal can be helpful. It can help with reflection and impulse control and lead toward something constructive, like problem-solving. We’ve become a culture of people with poor impulse control and short attention spans. You can write a post or email in a moment of anger, and then regret for years ever having written it. Please let’s all try to use this site (which is after all only a tool), to convey what really matters, as honestly as we can, while respecting others.
XxBlood: I’m concerned because twice you’ve said you want to die and no one has apparently responded. Are you able to talk more about your situation on a post, on this comments section, or via email? (Apologize if you’ve already posted and I haven’t found it yet)
best i don’t comment….probably be classed as spam :)…or in translation….opinions or ideas the moderators don’t agree or like……………..:)….
hell, ill take a chance….yes, the should be classifications…..age etc too…even male female….
broken down into…sections….m/m talk f/f talk under 18’s, 18-25-/ 25-35 and so on…as yes, of course someone who is 13 and depressed is still depressed and in need of help, talk, support, etc but, a 13 year old is not, and cannot have the same problems, social, financial, mental etc as someone 45 years old…….so of course there needs to be some separations of areas…..
as so far what i see here, is one big muddle of comments, venting, support, etc etc…and no real direction as to what this site is trying to do…or even segregating it accordingly…
need to vent !!…this sectoin
want to fight about whatever…this sectoin
want help somebody…this section
want out all together…this section
etc etc and so on……
is this SPAM ??
No, this isn’t spam, but it is certainly a muddle, as you describe. I believe in part the muddle has to do with the history of this site, which a moderator could hopefully describe better than I can.
Whereas there once was a suicide site of determined suiciders, it got taken over by trollers and Christian do-gooders, and people could no longer trust the validity of posts. It was no longer safe. Meanwhile, the govt has gotten involved and tried to exterminate all but the suicide hotline-type sites that have a clear agenda.
So now we have a hodge-podge of people using this site for very different reasons, ranging from trying to find specific suicide methods to feeling bored to trying to find a date to searching for companionship when one has lost other supports or is contemplating suicide. It is interesting that the third most popular “post of the day” was written in 2010 about the helium hood method. People still want information, but now it’s more censored and that type of post might not be permitted today.
I feel inhibited talking here with such a hodge-podge audience. But I want to be inclusive.
LauraLove,
How about separations by country or race?
or how about child doctor of psychology maybe they they could get there degree before there 18? 🙂
no I think youngers need to talk with adults too especially if they want to kill themselves and have no support at home, no offence to the little ones but them only talking to each other could be like the blind helping the blind.
i agree rocketmman also theres those who want help but disguise it as a i want to die, but inside are hoping for hope and to be saved
for this type who think theyre not looking for help which section should they go to? who would be capable of helping them? i dont think it would work well for sections… these posts have to hit everybody because in the midst of everybody there maybe 1 person able to help!
@catchthebus I have reached out exactly 19 times and only one post has people trying to really help me
It would be helpful if there were sections but that wouldnt stop the spam posts. I think that we, as users, should become more aware of the trollers and the ‘Christian do gooders’
XxBlood we are all at least thinking of dying even if the thought just popped up once and then went away (not my case), but i agree with you. i want to die and i have the right to post, no matter what age group or what made you feel that way. but also agree spam should be instantly blocked like links to other chats or (like i saw a few days ago) dumbasses saying horrible stuff like you should have tried a gun and calling names. shouldnt even enter the comments board at all. it may not be published but if the person writing the post even reads it, imagine what it can do to them? imagine a depressed person feeling like shit who reads a comment like that? i imagine and i feel it, its not good and anyone posting that kind of crap should be instantly blocked.
XxBlood–would you like to correspond via email? satire3002@gmail.com. I will search for your other comments and/or posts.
Blahh… I very much agree. But you cant stop stupid people by commenting things back an being a stupid person yourself, you got to be cautious of these people and report them.
a moderator should read it before it is accepted or even pending to see if thats acceptable or not. imagine a comment like that read by the wrong person and that person actually kills her/himself because of that? you dont how deep down are these people here what theyre capable of in a desperate moment like this… i am sorry you feel suicidal wish i could help somehow. i love talking to you and i agree with you though, has to be reported!
@catchthebus I don’t know if I could.
@blahh That would mean it would take longer for help to arrive to those who need it.
XxBlood, I understand your hesitation about telling your story. and if it’s anything like mine, it might seem too long and convoluted to do justice in an email.
I called the Samaritans in UK this morning and had all the time in the world to explain my situation and feelings. this is the second time I’ve called them. They have been excellent listeners/empathizers, helped me to clarify my thoughts and feelings, did not give advice unless asked, did not call police, did not try to talk me out of suicide, understood completely my need to have a method at my disposal to give me a sense of control if nothing else. Maybe they could be an option for you along with this site?
yes youre right XxBlood
@catchthebus I will just email you…
@blahh I believe that as users we could find a way to make things easier both for the users an the moderators
@catchthebus I will just email you…
@blahh I believe that as users we could find a way to make things easier both for the users an the moderators
Bloody.Ayr email me? D: natttyyy23 AT gmail dot com
I think that I would probably be outsmarted by a 15 year old girl. It’s embarrassing I know. It’s the reason I came here. Do you think all the adults are like, dead or something because thats really poignant given the purported reasoning behind this site and the universe and stuff. Either way you look at it the adults aren’t setting a good example. If they are dead then thats just not inspiring the youth of today. If they are alive and all the kids are here then they are clearly not leading by example. It’s a paradox man. Something to think about. I’ve have to get another beer now. Peace. I don’t really care about any of this discussion you know. I pretend I care but I don’t. Everyones mean.
I’m an adult, and I’m here. I remember being a suicidal teenager, and I would have appreciated deeply any input from adults in a safe, anonymous environment. That’s why I respond to obvious “kids” when I see them. Maybe I piss them off, maybe I help, maybe I make it worse; hell, I don’t know. But at least I try, and that makes me feel a little better.
I’m here not as an example for anyone. I’m here because I need this site, too. Sometimes even a teenager can have insight that I can use. I’m here because I’ve wrestled with death for thirty-five years, and I’m getting really tired. Maybe some of that experience can be of use to someone, and maybe that can give me the strength to come back for another day. I’m here because I feel a little better when I dump some of my own garbage in a safe place. I’m here because I know of no other place where I can talk openly about this subject without freaking people out.
I don’t really care about your ages. I can ignore the truly childish posts. This is a good place, and I think I’ll keep coming back from time to time.