Last try to save myself

if you’re depressed and/or in crisis, don’t drink alone, or even at all… unless of course you just really want to feel worse.

I tend to think that most people (especially those/we who are suicidally depressed), are not quite fond of feeling worse… so it’s perplexing to me, how so many of them seem to continue knowingly doing things to cause themselves to suffer more, unnecessarily.

Maybe it all comes down to the “right” or “better” choices being too difficult.

Try to distract yourself when you don’t feel like dealing with it, but allow yourself some breaks from the distractions, to have time to attempt to work through it all, when you feel like you might be able. The goal is to reach a maintainable state of emotional fortitude and stability, so that even if you’re still depressed, you’ll be able to manage it. Some of us never quite get there.

so if you know, your choices are: continue doing the same things that you KNOW, WILL continue your misery… or choose something different and “unknown,” that “may or may not” still result in misery… you know what to do. “Definitely Not” versus “Maybe.”

And if you choose to continue doing the same things you know make you miserable, instead of “rolling the dice” on almost literally /anything else/, then you must not be that miserable. If you’re unwilling to even attempt to reduce your own misery by making a different choice, or choosing a different action, then it’s ridiculous to claim to be “suicidal.”

I maintain my stance that, the only acceptable basis for not choosing something different, is in the situation when all known available choices will either not reduce your misery, or will actually worsen it, predictably (and you also have to be somewhat capable of reasonably accurate predictions, based on observing actual facts, and understanding how they relate…).

When potential for improvement is removed, and only futility and potential/probable increased detriment remain, THEN you should accept that things are as good (or least bad) as they’re going to get, and try to keep it that way… unless, of course, “as good as it gets” is also unbearable and intolerable… at which point you have to decide whether you’ll keep going “just because it’s not worse,” or “just because other people might be sad if you end it early,” or… Not.

Is it really /that/ bad? Is it /really/ that bad? Make sure you try your best to know what you really have, before just throwing it away. I can’t insist it will ever get better, but i can assure everyone that getting better almost always carries the requirement of effort to make it better. You have to be tired enough of the way things are, to want them to change and get better, badly enough, to actually do something, many things, about it.

“if you want it done right, do it yourself.”

^ exactly dude. You can only sustain heroic determination for so long. Eventually we’re all just biological organisms who wear out due to repeated stresses, which often serves to facilitate the decline of our natural regenerative properties so many of us take for granted in our youth.