“They†say I should be more confident, believe in myself. But I think I am confident. I know I’m useless, boring, weak, etc. I accept it. I am confident in my uselessness. Isn’t that true confidence, accepting your faults? I’m not going to pretend I’m something I’m not. Why deny the truth? What’s the point in faking it?
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You’re wise. I think it’s wise to be able to accept one’s defects. But you need to accept your qualities as well. Then, you’ll be confident. I know, even without knowing you at all, that you have qualities. Everybody has. Most people just don’t exploit them. The same as most people are clever, and have great abilities thanks to their human brain. But most of them do not want to exploit it, that’s how we get the society we live in…
“I’m not going to pretend I’m something I’m not.”
Oh man… i’ve covered this issue here in the past.
Basically, you HAVE TO trick them, with confidence… which is what’s called “a con,” or “confidence trick.” You have to gain their trust, by telling them what they want to hear, and showing them the illusions they want to see.
The only other way is to ACTUALLY be all those things… which is most likely not yours to control.
It sucks. They make the cost of entry “confidence,” but will make you seem like the worst person in the world, once they realize you embellished your features and capabilities, in order to gain their approval. The problem is, you can’t gain their approval without doing exactly that, because of how they are taught, and willingly comply, to configure their own standards. This is not your fault at all. Most of them are suffering from “disney princess syndrome.”
You can either use the “confidence trick” to gain access to what you want… or you can resign to go without. Typically, there are no alternatives… but occasionally someone is allowed to access something they want, through honesty and truth. But that’s a low-percentage play.