I feel like most people notice depression signs  but rather adopt the role of the spectator instead of intervening. Why are there so many out there claiming one can and must get through stuff alone? Why is death considered a weak choice? Why do we shame ourselves when there’s nothing shameful about feeling depressed, lonely and suicidal.
As I get fully recovered, I’m trying my best to put myself out there in social environments and whenever this kind of subject gets on the table, people bash and deny help to those who are desperately asking for it.
How many of you had your parents, a friend or someone notice you changed but yet did nothing? How many of you had someone simply expecting you to snap out of it?
Why can’t those same people grasp that all we need is one person to care. ONE!
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I appreciate your views, but I have more than one person that cares and shows concern…..but it just delays the inevitable.
I don’t think it’s that people don’t care, I think it’s more that they don’t know what to do or say.
And I think you’re wrong in saying that all we need is one person to care…the above poster is right in that it just delays it or at least the feelings and for me it just adds a bunch of guilt.
Exactly. Certain thoughts get in your head and no matter who or what intervenes…..they remain. That is how IN respond to this dilemma. Not saying everyone is the same. So there’s still hope for everybody else!
In some cases it does take one person.
But maybe you are right, some people just don’t know what to do.
The answer is pretty clear to me…
I’ll bite:
“Why are there so many out there claiming one can and must get through stuff alone?”
Because when no one wants to help you, or no one can, you’re all you’ve got, and therefore “alone” is the only way to get through stuff.
“Why do we shame ourselves when there’s nothing shameful about feeling depressed, lonely and suicidal.”
Society shames the rejects, always has, always will. Doesn’t mean it’s valid, and doesn’t mean you should feel ashamed. You shouldn’t.
“How many of you had your parents, a friend or someone notice you changed but yet did nothing? How many of you had someone simply expecting you to snap out of it?”
Most of us encounter that. They do nothing because 1) they don’t know what/how, and 2) because they don’t want to. Society shuns the rejects, and if you can’t make it alone, people think you’re not worth their time.
“Why can’t those same people grasp that all we need is one person to care. ONE!”
Caring isn’t Doing. This is at the root of why those people denigrate the person and the circumstances that person can’t manage. They care, but they won’t/can’t do anything about it, so they get frustrated, and end up blaming you for making them feel bad about you being so upset about everything that you’re ready to quit… even though you don’t really want to quit; you just want things to be better.