“You’re being selfish”, the words that any suicide debater wants to hear. Do they think this statement helps us. We already feel like a failure, or dumb, or fat, or ugly, or useless, but now we are selfish, thanks so much for the added negative title! In my perspective, they are the ones being selfish! They want me to keep living in this miserable world. They are not living my life, so to me they are the ones being selfish. I am already at a breaking point , does people dealing with a suicide debater, really think adding another negative title to my persona helps? I just needed to get this off my chest. Anyone else that has to go through this or has had the pleasure of hearing those words, by a professional or a love one non the less, would understand my point, and my perspective.
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I don’t see suicide itself as “selfish”; however, depression does seem to cause those afflicted with it to have a very inward view (or perhaps it is the other way around). Whatever the case, I’ve usually found that people who are depressed are more caring towards others in the same situation. They are empathetic and try to make those in the same boat feel better (and is the purpose for the forum it seems). That doesn’t seem like selfish people to me.
This can be switched over to the other side and the people who want you to continue are the selfish ones but I disagree, it’s not selfish to want to die and it’s not selfish to want a person to live and all should be done to help a suicidal person to live but in the end it’s their choice to end their lives and it doesn’t help to dissuade them by calling them selfish. One thing I would add, at the moment there is a debate going on in the UK about assisted suicide for the terminally ill, I believe those who want people who are dying anyway to be forced to endure the pain to their ultimate end are being selfish, some can cope but others want to die on their own terms and not to prolong it which I believe is their right, just though I’d add that because it bothers me.
You wouldnt say someone is selfish for having cancer, so why say someone is selfish for depression (and may be considering suicide, because depression ‘usually’ doesnt allow someone to think clearly). Also nobody asked to be born so they should be able to die if they want. Of course, its better to try and get their life back together and not think about suicide (if depressed may need to see a doctor and/or therapist and take meds etc). Unfortunately some people happen to be in completely hopeless situations (bad disease, no money, homeless, etc.).. When people are depressed they may feel hopeless too until they get treated..Sry for the tangent