the charisma myth by something something cabane. I used to take notes in it and it was very informative and useful, I completely recommend. it’s more oriented towards business professionals but definitely applicable to the average joe
Hi.
I don’t know of a book like that, but I do know the problem.
It’s all about the practice and self-esteem, I guess. Depression can help to form amazing skills because at some point, other people’s opinions just fail to matter anymore. However, if you actively want to do something, just go into a place where you’re completely unknown and unlikely to meet the people again, anyway, and try (e.g. on elders, they are unlikely to reject you and you’re unlikely to be interested in a closer relationship, I guess.). You can think of (and prepare) subjects beforehand, if you feel like you need to.
If you’re still in school or have remarkable skills in a specific matter (a particular interest in movies or comic books, a musical instrument, …), you should probably try to give presentations as often as possible.
Or simply watch how the others do it. Books and movies can help, too.
Please let me know if you need more help.
Good luck,
-R.
Thank u 4 the comment. It is just that I don’t know what to say to people. Sometimes I wish all people could say was ‘blablablabla…’ then I could carry on conversations as long as I want and make friends and girlfriend easily 😀
It’s probably because no one shares your interests, otherwise it would be easy to come into conversation. I’d wish you to meet someone like that. You’re more likely to in a group of people with similar interests (fan clubs, [comic] book stores, sport (or artist) groups etc.), obviously, but for most people it works out just like that.
You can always talk about music (current music charts), movies, maybe books, food and drinks, hobbies, plans for the future. If it doesn’t carry itself at some point, you don’t match each other, I guess.
Just know your place. You’re worth it. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Best Wishes,
-R.
I agree with the comment above. There are moments when I sound like I’m stammering. However, my eloquence of speech arrives when I am with a group of people that share in my passions. When I discovered this, I began to build up a ton of confidence in myself. That will filter into the rest of your life.
Books are a nice way to get tips on better communication, but you have to eventually jump in the deep end by just talking to someone you don’t know. My social anxiety is terrible, but it’s much better after being in a group that uses the same vocabulary as I do.
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the charisma myth by something something cabane. I used to take notes in it and it was very informative and useful, I completely recommend. it’s more oriented towards business professionals but definitely applicable to the average joe
Thank u for ur recommendation 🙂
Hi.
I don’t know of a book like that, but I do know the problem.
It’s all about the practice and self-esteem, I guess. Depression can help to form amazing skills because at some point, other people’s opinions just fail to matter anymore. However, if you actively want to do something, just go into a place where you’re completely unknown and unlikely to meet the people again, anyway, and try (e.g. on elders, they are unlikely to reject you and you’re unlikely to be interested in a closer relationship, I guess.). You can think of (and prepare) subjects beforehand, if you feel like you need to.
If you’re still in school or have remarkable skills in a specific matter (a particular interest in movies or comic books, a musical instrument, …), you should probably try to give presentations as often as possible.
Or simply watch how the others do it. Books and movies can help, too.
Please let me know if you need more help.
Good luck,
-R.
Thank u 4 the comment. It is just that I don’t know what to say to people. Sometimes I wish all people could say was ‘blablablabla…’ then I could carry on conversations as long as I want and make friends and girlfriend easily 😀
It’s probably because no one shares your interests, otherwise it would be easy to come into conversation. I’d wish you to meet someone like that. You’re more likely to in a group of people with similar interests (fan clubs, [comic] book stores, sport (or artist) groups etc.), obviously, but for most people it works out just like that.
You can always talk about music (current music charts), movies, maybe books, food and drinks, hobbies, plans for the future. If it doesn’t carry itself at some point, you don’t match each other, I guess.
Just know your place. You’re worth it. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Best Wishes,
-R.
I agree with the comment above. There are moments when I sound like I’m stammering. However, my eloquence of speech arrives when I am with a group of people that share in my passions. When I discovered this, I began to build up a ton of confidence in myself. That will filter into the rest of your life.
Books are a nice way to get tips on better communication, but you have to eventually jump in the deep end by just talking to someone you don’t know. My social anxiety is terrible, but it’s much better after being in a group that uses the same vocabulary as I do.