Hey guys.
This is like my third post in two days.
Please advise on how to handle that feeling that noone really cares and the world would be waaaaay better off without you.
Cus, i for the past one month thats all i have been thinking. Cus i am a coward, i am still alive.
People , actually, one person who i thought cared a lot just turned out to be another one who didn’t.
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I am sorry, didnt get the joke??
You are not a coward. Being alive and facing your problems require a lot of guts. Anyway try staying positive and remember you are not alone, people here are very nice and they give great advices. (^_^)
“One person who i thought cared a lot just turned out to be another one who didn’t” — I understand exactly how that feels. It hurts, but in the end you have to try to learn from what the person taught you…. Cliché, but true because experience in life and experience in dealing with people help you to wise up and change.
well, the only person who cares for you is yourself. as long as you love yourself, it doesn’t matter if no one else cares. even a mom doesn’t care for her child as much as you can care for yourself. and if you are feeling that you need to form new relationships.. then do it.
I am lonely too because I am autistic and can’t form relationships.. I understand now if I care for myself then everything is fine..
and the world won’t be better or worse if we kill ourselves.. there are about 7 billion people out there and your suicide won’t turn this world into a paradise or anything..
you are not worthless.. it’s a feeling caused by depression.. I hope you will find the help you need.. medicines can help too.. go see a good doctor..
I meant better for the people around me. Cus i keep offending people by mistake, cus my sense of humour is a bit more developed than them.
And i keep disappointing my parents and everyone else.
And i cant even keep a decent friendship for more than a few months.
I have that problem too.. maybe you have social anxiety? or maybe you lack social skills?
have you see a psychologist for this? they can help..
*seen not see..
@Sui_RC You aren’t a coward for being alive. You’re alive because you’re strong enough to endure what you have to. Just so you know, I talked about my depression with a few people and all of them have judged me. Sometimes we feel like someone to care for us but I’ve realized people will never care for us as much as we expect and how we expect them to. It may seem like the hardest thing to do but we must care for ourselves and not expect it from others, for it only makes you miserable. I hope you learn to be strong even if it means struggling for years. I have been doing the same.
I feel we have a lot in common and it would be better if we emailed, texted or talked on the phone so you can open up more and I can do the same
Ok. Tell me your email id.
Just my two cents. There is only one people in your whole life that is never going to leave you and care about you until the end of it, and that is yourself. Sometimes we forget that because we live in fps mode and we see everyone else from the outside, but like catty mentioned above, it’s a problem of expectations.
We could expect the world from others, and others could promise us the world, but there’s nothing that assures you that it might go that way or not. Life circumstances also play a part, because even if people do genuinely care about you, there’s always something that could change things along the way (nothing is eternal).
Might sound like conformism and it is a tad sad to see it this way, but expecting little to nothing from others and relying more on yourself helps to tone down the disappointments. The rest of people are human, same as us, which makes them all equally important, and prone to the same mistakes, so nope, no one is better off without you either.
At the same time, if we expect less, it makes it a lot more special when someone genuinely cares. Also, you’re not a coward, it takes courage to keep trusting in people when they have failed you, and it’s normal that it makes you feel bad when you don’t see that care reciprocated.
One thing worse than the world being better off without you is if it didn’t matter to the world one way or other. Love and hate are opposite sides of the same coin but both mean validating your existence. It’s when there truly is a total lack of both that’s unbearable.