I just graduated middle skool (huzzah)
I dealt with alot of bull then, trying to save a crush from throwing his life away yet throwin mine away
i would have to say that i brought this on my self, i thought i fell n love so i know how most of these girls feel about being dumped by the supposedly guy of their dreams but let me tell u i also know how it is to feel used and its much better to die than be used (not that i say do it) sadly i survived hell yet im still in it
Me and my moms realtionship got much worst and it kinda fudged up my life and sense of pain
my cut im contemplating about re opening (read lost forever) is kinda deep its bull really why i keep cuttin it open
i havent tryd anything stupid yet but reading the posts people put up here i know what yall is goin thru and hell before i knew but this site i felt alone to and i cryed alot
but then i found out i got friends family and a dog (who humps my leg) Yet he and all of the others love the crap outta me yet why do i feel alone?
mostly no one has and answer to that question so thats pretty much what we all mope about
“why are we still alone even tho we are loved”
“what in the world am i here for”
“fuck if i cant do this then shit with that”
and the fhrase everyone knows and loves “u kno what fuck my life”
BOOM ur gone but why suicide is a thought that can go away but we hold on to it because we lost the people we all loved so whats the use?? really?
Any one who has an answer and is ready to see the bright side of life tell me how that works for u and why it doesnt work 4 me??
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Well, I don’t have all the answers or I wouldn’t be here…
But what keeps me going is learning which people I really *can* trust and which ones aren’t actually any good for me.
The hardest thing for me has been realizing that my family *doesn’t* really love me. When I told them I was suicidal and needed help, they just said I was ‘trying to get attention’.
No shit, sherlock – the whole reason people get depressed and messed up in the first place is because nobody’s paying them any attention.
So, if people *say* they love you, but they don’t actually *do* anything that makes you FEEL loved, then: They don’t really love you.
What they *love* is: Themselves. They love the image that they are loving caring people. So they say, “I love you” so that they can feel good about themselves.
The trick is to notice: When somebody says they love you, what do *you* feel, inside yourself? Do you feel loved? Or do you feel – I don’t know – yucky, or miserable somehow?
This is the clue. If somebody really does love you, you’ll feel it. It’ll feel GOOD. It won’t feel icky in some way.
If it feels icky, then that means they love themSELVES more than they love you, and they just want you to think good thoughts about them. They think you won’t notice that they never actually DO anything that helps you, that makes you feel good, that makes you FEEL loved.
Does that make any sense?
I have had to cut my family out of my life because of this, and even though it was really hard and scary and lonely and I had a bunch of panic attacks and still don’t sleep very well, I no longer feel like killing myself.
Because what I realized is that the pain I was feeling came from the LIES my family was telling me. They were LYING when they said they loved me. They don’t understand that the WORDS mean nothing – it’s the ACTIONS that count. (Sorry about the all caps, don’t mean to yell, I just feel really, really strongly about this. Obviously…)
Another thought – you ask, “Yet he and all of the others love the crap outta me yet why do i feel alone?”
I think that what most of us really need is to be understood, more than we need people to just say they love us. We need to actually feel understood, not just have people saying things that they think we want to hear.
Like, if you’re getting bullied at school, you don’t just want somebody to say, “Oh, I’m so sorry that’s happening!” I mean, yeah, you might feel better for a split second, but the reality is, you need help to get the bully to leave you alone. Which means that someone who *really* loved you would figure out a way to help. They would care about *your* pain as much as they care about their own. They wouldn’t just leave you sitting there with your problems and do nothing to help you change the situation.
ok, just cause people love ya doesn’t mean they can help you or do the right thing, (unfortunetly.) It has been my experience that people who are not suicidal/depressed/traumatized, don’t have any clue how to do the right thing. My boyfriend loves me and fortunetly I’m soo crazy for him he is like my own medicine, but i know he has no idea what to do. He just tries his best and it really makes me feel loved. But when I’m around other people somtimes, it’s like I’m not there. And i feel that way around my boyfriend too sometimes. Don’t search for a purpose in life, it can be quite depressing. Your mom doesn’t understand either. you may have to give up on the hope that she would understand cause she probably would never understand. Build ur relationship around that thought and I’m sure things would work out with fewer conflicts. People always have conflicts. Cutting feels rly good. But try not to do it when ya don’t want to cause it’s a hassle to have to hide it all the time. I think u r dwelling too much on ur horrible “boyfriend” cause it may feel like love but it doesn’t mean he’s perfect for you, bcause you can’t choose who you want to love really. Being used it a horrid feeling too. Try to forget cuase dwelling on it makes things worse. Try to keep movin forward? that’s how you do it. each day at a time and don’t think back if it’s a bad day. (I know it’s not as easy as it sounds) but u were strong enough to make it to here, you can get past this.
oh ya one more thing, I understand <3
you can talk to me if you like, im 16 and i’ve puled myself through a lot of crap, i’ll tell u more if you msg me but ne ways my email is theaviationband@yahoo.com, much love, jeff