Sometimes I love so truly and deeply that I forget about myself.Â
The person I am with becomes everything to me. I put them first in everything I do. However, I never have this love returned to me. So I question whether it is right for me to love this way. The price I pay for this love is myself. In return what I get is pain. So is it right to love this way? May be not.Â
The reason why I love this way is because if I don’t wake up tomorrow, then I will know that I have done everything that was within my power to make the person I love happy. I have given it my all and there is nothing I could have done differently.Â
So maybe it is wrong to give up everything for love, but what is the point of love if I don’t.Â
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It’s a mistake to give up everything for love. There has to be boundaries. Mutual respect. And you NEVER put anyone else first before YOU. Love is supposed to be a team. Interdependence. Not one person doing all the work. If there’s no support or whatever the hubbub’s in love, etc, then there won’t be any joy, etc, and the relationship will crumble and fail.
Heck! What am I doing on this post? I am no expert…~ Well, take care lass. I’d give you sympathy but it really isn’t my style.
I don’t know what to say to that, except I know how it should work. But somehow I can’t do it that way!
Once again I agree with Gaara….it is supposed to be a team effort, interdependence.
I also know that when loneliness chews at my bones and sticks a straw in to suck out the marrow and when all my visions of the future are painted with bad memories and everyone is a serial killer until proved otherwise (very dangerous testing that) I will stick and do stick with a man who is abusive because I am tired of being alone. The devil you know is better than the devil you do not. If the world feels all devilish then those are the only options.
Sometimes we do need to put others before ourselves and visa versa as Gaara said it is a team, turn taking kinda thing.
But when I was in my twenties and thirties I did leave realtionships that were bad and there was no internet support then and I grew up very isolated and abused so I just left but didn’t connect with, trust others so all I learned was moving away from not moving towards. So move towards the sort of relationship Gaara speaks of little by little you will change and far sooner than I and with many more years to enjoy the better life you can have.