So this Saturday, my family and I are throwing a party/pool party. Were having a few of my friends come over and than were having my parents’ friends and their children too. It seemed cool until I heard that a boy from my tball team when I was younger was going to come over too. I instantly got nervous and felt like I had to look good, the only probelm is that I have big thighs and 2 rolls on my stomach and I feel fat to go swimming with him.
I usually go swimming with a tankini on but I just bought an amazing bikini and I really wanted to wear it. I’ve been over stressing the whole thing and to make things even worse my parents don’t really want me wearing a bikini. I feel that if I wear a tankini I’ll be an outcast and I don’t want to feel that way.
I have been feeling so worthless because of my body. I don’t even want to deal with this situation anymore and just go somewhere where I can feel alright. Please help choose which one is good for me because I am going crazy!
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Don’t worry about it! Make a commitment to yourself to lose weight the healthy way! It may be hard, but with effort and TOTAL commitment you can do it! Work out and eat healthy. It IS achievable, you just need to work for it! Good luck! 😀
Women have no clue how beautiful they are. Also I like girls who are thick and so do a lot of guys. I’m not saying you shouldn’t lose weight I’m just saying you need to be comfortable with the person you see in the mirror today.
Listen to the song “UnPretty” by T.L.C 😉 Also, work on getting to where you are ok with yourself. If you are uncomfortable with your weight, then carefully take steps to reach a healthy goal.
For the bikini, I have a feeling that your parents don’t want you wearing it bc you are more attractive than they would like you to know 😉 lol
Maybe there’s a happy-medium? What about a cute cover-up thing or a sarong? When u are in the water he won’t see much of you unless he is being a perv! You can put the cover-up on when u are just hanging around the yard etc and will be also protected from the sun.
*I’m not encouraging you to cover your body in shame at all, ok 🙂 I’m just thinking of realistic clothing options. If deep down, u want to wear your new bikini then girl, go on and do it! Embrace yourself and your confidence 🙂
And who knows, you might not even end up really liking this boy and fretting over nothing 😉 <3
holy smilies >_< I'm not that freakin happy haha
You do not know what GUYS find pretty. Dont listen to the crap the TV tells you. Guys find all kinds of things pretty. For some it is a chest or a butt or hair or a smile.
If the weight is such a battle for you right now – then throw a tee shirt over your bikini and say you are worried about sunburn. But I PROMISE you – that you ARE pretty. You just can not see it yourself. But you KNOW there are a hundred guys reading this thinking – i WISH I could see her.
You ARE pretty. Trust me.